In the search for our soul mate -- or for a date on Saturday night -- sooner or later, everyone gets taken by surprise. Someone we thought of as not particularly sexy turns out to be hot, hot, hot. It's not necessarily about having particular curves or muscles, stiletto heels or bling. It's a certain something that catches our attention, and doesn't let go. Here's how to cultivate your inner sex god or goddess.
***Work that attitude***
Believe in yourself. So easy to say, so hard to do, but this is the key. It's not about being arrogant, or having a huge ego. It's more about how you let the world know that you feel good about your self, you're confident in what you stand for, in who you are, and what you believe in. Cultivate this, and it shows up in your smile, your eye contact, your walk.
Make someone smile, and you have a bond. Make them laugh, and you're friends. Keep them laughing, and they're just about yours. Humor and a quick wit are unbelievable attributes when it comes to projecting your sexy self.
It can be a hard world out there, and we tend to get tough, and act tough. But don't neglect your softer side. We all have it, and showing it can be a real turn-on, whether you're burbling over a little puppy, offering your seat to the infirmed, or just being extra tender with someone special.
Some people are naturally extroverted, but the rest of us have to work at it to make it happen. The ability to walk into a room of strangers and strike up conversations, make connections, and work the crowd displays oodles of confidence and leadership, which add up to a ton and half of sexiness.
This may seem counterintuitive, in this bad-boy, bad-girl world of ours, where nice folks seem to play second fiddle. But building trust is a step to letting down barriers, connecting to another person, getting to that warm, weak in the knees feeling.
We all have a capacity for sensual experience. For many people, though, it's something reserved for private moments. But public sensuality is, well, sensual...not just for you, but for those around you. So cultivate your sensuality and your passion, whether enjoying food, wine, poetry, dancing, a backrub, or simply the touch of a hand. Invite others to share it with you.
Eat right, get enough sleep, exercise with gusto. Wash up, brush and floss, take care of your skin, get a nice haircut, pay attention to how you dress. These are the basics, but they add oodles to your sex appeal.
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