Four Wives

There was a rich merchant who had 4 wives.
He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her and gave her nothing but the best.
He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He's very proud of her and always wanted to show off her to his friends. However, the merchant is always in great fear that she might run away with some other men.
He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always patient and in fact is the merchant's confidante. Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she would always help him out and tide him through difficult times.

Now, the merchant's 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.
One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, "Now I have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I'll be alone. How lonely I'll be!"

Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No way!" replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word.
The answer cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant's heart.

The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you so much for all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is so good over here! I'm going to remarry when you die!" The merchant's heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the 2nd wife, "I always turned to you for help and you've always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only send you to your grave." The answer came like a bolt of thunder and the merchant was devastated.
Then a voice called out :
"I'll leave with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go." The merchant looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the merchant said, "I should have taken much better care of you while I could have !"

Moral :
Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives
A. The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when we die.
B. Our 3rd wife ? Our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others.
C. The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had been there for us when we're alive, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.
D. The 1st wife is in fact our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of material, wealth and sensual pleasure.
Guess what? It is actually the only thing that follows us wherever we go. Perhaps it's a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather than to wait until we're on our deathbed to lament.

The Art of Doing Nothing

Sure, we all know how to do nothing. We all know how to lay around and waste time. But many of us are too busy to do it much, and when we do it, our minds are often on other things. We cannot relax and enjoy the nothingness.

Doing nothing can be a waste of time, or it can be an art form. Here’s how to become a master, and in the process, improve your life, melt away the stress and make yourself more productive when you actually do work.

Start small
Doing nothing, in the true sense of the word, can be overwhelming if you attempt to do too much nothing at once.

Do small nothings at first. Focus on 5-10 minutes at a time, and start your practice sessions in a safe place — at home, not at work or in a busy public place. You may also not be ready to do nothing in the middle of nature, so do it in your bedroom or living room. Find a time and place where there are not many distractions, not much noise, not a lot of people to bother you.

Shut off all distractions — TV, computer, cell phones, regular phones, Blackberries, and the like. Doing nothing is hard when our communications gadgets are calling at us to do something.

Now, close your eyes, and do nothing. Yes, the smart-asses out there will say you’re doing something — you’re sitting there or laying there, closing your eyes. But we mean doing nothing in the sense that if someone were to call us up and ask what we’re doing, we say “Oh, nothing.” Don’t let them call you up, though. They are trying to distract you.

After 5-10 minutes of doing, nothing, you can quit, and go do something. But try to do this every day, or as much as possible, because it is not possible to become a master without practice.

Breathing
The first place to start in the quest for mastery over this art is in your breathing. If this sounds suspiciously like meditation, well, cast those suspicions out of your mind. We are not here to do suspicion — we are doing nothing.

Start first by breathing slowly in, and then slowly out. Now closely monitor your breath as it enters your body, through your nose, and goes down into your lungs, and fills your lungs. Now feel it as it goes out of your body, through your mouth, and feel the satisfying emptying of your lungs.

Do this for 5-10 minutes, if you can. Practice this as you can. When you start thinking about other things, such as how great that darn beauty-in-out blog is, well, stop that! Don’t beat yourself up about it, but bring your thoughts back to your breathing every time.

Relaxing
An important part of doing nothing is being able to completely relax. If we are tense, then the doing of the nothing is really for naught. Relaxing starts by finding a comfortable place to do your nothing — a soft chair, a plush couch, a well-made, clean bed. Once you’ve found this spot, lie in it, and wiggle around to make it fit your body better. Think of how a cat lies down, and makes itself comfortable. Cats are very, very good at doing nothing. You may never approach their level of mastery, but they make for great inspiration.

Next, try the breathing technique. If you are not completely relaxed by now (and a short nap would be a great indication of relaxation), then try self massage. Yes, massage is much better when administered by other hands, but self massage is great too. Start with your shoulders and neck. Work your way up to your head and even your face. Also do your back, and legs and arms. Avoid any areas that might lead to doing something (although that can be relaxing too).

Yet another great way of relaxing is an exercise where you tense each muscle in your body, one body part at a time, and then let the tensed muscle relax. Start with your feet, then your legs, and work your way up to your eyebrows. If you can do the top of your head, you may be too advanced for this article.

Once you are relaxed, see if you can relax even more. Try not to relax so much that you lose control of your bodily fluids.

Bathing - an advanced stage
Those who are in the beginning stages of the Art of Doing Nothing should not attempt this stage. But once you’ve become proficient at the above steps, the stage of the Bath can be pretty great.

The bath must be nice and hot. Not lukewarm, but hot. Bubbles are also required, even if you are a man who is too manly for this. Just don’t tell any of your guy friends. Other bath accessories, such as a loofah sponge, or bath gels, or potpourri, are very optional.

Again, you must have all distractions shut off. Bathing is also best done if you are alone in the house, but if not, everyone else in the house must know that you CANNOT be disturbed, even if the house is burning down. If they break this sacred rule, you must turn upon them with the Wrath of Hell(tm).

Step into your bath, one foot at a time, very slowly. If your bath is properly hot, it is best if you get into it an inch at a time. For more sensitive body parts, such as the crotchal area, it is best to squeeze your eyes shut tight and slowly lower yourself into the steaming water despite all instincts to flee. Once you are fully immersed (and you should go completely under, head included, at first), close your eyes, and feel the heat penetrating your body.

You may begin to sweat. This is a good thing. Allow the sweat to flow. You may need a glass of water as the sweat could dehydrate you. A good book is another great way to enjoy your bath. Allow your muscles to be penetrated by the heat, to be relaxed completely, and feel all your worries and stresses and aches and inner turmoil flow out of your body into the water.

A hot bath is even more awesome if followed by a bracing cold shower. Either way, get out of the bath once the water is no longer warm and your skin is very raisin-like.

Tasting and feeling
Doing nothing is also great when accompanied by very good beverages or food. Good tea or coffee, wine, hot cocoa, and other sensual beverages go very well with the Art. It’s best to take these beverages by themselves, with no food, and without a book or other distractions. Focus on the liquid as you sip it slowly, savoring every bit of the flavor and texture and temperature in your mouth before swallowing, and feeling the swallow completely. Close your eyes as you do this. Truly enjoy this drink.

Foods are also great: berries, rich desserts, freshly made bread, the best … soup … ever, or whatever it is that you love. Be sure you eat it slowly, savoring every bite. Chew slowly, and close your eyes as you enjoy the food. Feel the texture in your mouth. It is bliss!

Doing nothing in nature
Once you’ve passed the above stages, it is time to practice this gentle art out in nature. Find a peaceful place — in your front yard if that’s peaceful, a park, the woods, at the beach, a river, a lake — places with water are excellent. Places out of reach of the sounds of traffic and city life are best.

Out here in nature, you can practice the art for 20 minutes, an hour, or even longer. There are fewer distractions, and you can really shut yourself off from the stresses of life. Don’t just let your mind wander everywhere — focus on the natural surroundings around you. Look closely at the plants, at the water, at the wildlife. Truly appreciate the majesty of nature, the miracle of life.

Incorporating the Art in daily life
This is the final stage of mastering this Art. Don’t attempt it until you’ve practiced and become competent at the above stages.

Start by doing nothing while you are waiting in line, at the doctor’s office, on a bus, or for a plane. Wait, without reading a newspaper or magazine, without talking on the phone, without checking your email, without writing out your to-do list, without doing any work, without worrying about what you need to do later. Wait, and do nothing. Concentrate on your breathing, or try one of the relaxation techniques above. Concentrate on those around you — watch them, try to understand them, listen to their conversations.

Next, try doing nothing when you drive. Yes, you must drive, but try to do nothing else. Don’t listen to music or news or an audiotape. Don’t multi-task. Don’t talk on your cell phone, don’t eat, and don’t do your makeup. Just drive. Concentrate on your driving, look at the things you are passing, and feel your breathing. Relax yourself, and don’t worry about the other drivers (but don’t crash into them!). Drive slowly, going easy on the gas and brake pedals. This technique has a great side-effect: better gas mileage.

Last, try doing nothing in the middle of chaos, in your workplace or other stressful environment. Just shut everything out, close your eyes, and think about your breathing. Try a relaxation technique. Do this for 5-10 minutes at a time, building up to 20-30 minutes.

If you can do this, in the middle of a stressful day at work or with the kids, you will allow yourself to focus more fully on the task at hand. You will be relaxed and ready to concentrate, to bring yourself into a state of flow. (Warning: Doing nothing could get you in trouble with your boss, so be careful! But if it makes you more productive, you boss might not mind.)

Finally, the Art of Doing Nothing cannot be mastered overnight. It will take hours and hours of practice, of hard work (doing nothing isn’t easy!). But you will enjoy every minute of it! Try it today.


Thanks to Leo Babauta
a freelance writer from Guam

10 Ways to get a better night’s sleep

1. Television
Not just the television but any electronic device with a screen. A recent study found that those people who either watched television or read their emails for example find it a lot harder to fall asleep.
2. Exercise
Everybody knows that the benefits of exercise are endless, having a better night sleep is included in this long list. According to a CNN report you should exercise in the morning or in the afternoon to see the best benefits whilst you sleep. Note that exercise can be anything, even exercise in the bedroom, as long as your mattress can take it!
3. Food
Some foods can help you sleep and some foods can help you stay awake, we all know about things like warm milk before bed time or chamomile tea, but if that doesn’t take your fancy how about the following: bananas, honey, potatoes, oatmeal, almonds, flaxseeds, and whole-wheat bread.
4. Power Nap
Not so long ago, the 20 minute power nap was frowned upon, but now people are finally realising the huge benefits of a power nap. Some companies are going as far as installing sleeping pods in their offices!
5. Alarm Sounds
Try to find an alarm with a less annoying tone, the standard “BEEP BEEP BEEP” is not always the best way to wake up fresh on a morning. Try an alarm clock that has a range of alarm sounds, this way it will give you the chance to sample a range of them, and then you can program the one in that suits you best.
6. Sleep on it
Have you ever been set a task or set yourself a task to find out you get stuck on a hurdle and have difficulty figuring out the problem? Studies show that a little shut eye can help.
7. Insomnia
I for one hate laying awake at night to find out I can’t get to sleep, despite the fact that I am tired. Apparently visualisation can help you if you find yourself in this predicament.
8. Long nap & Spoon Technique
Artist and napper Salvador Dali had an interesting nap technique, based on the idea that your body benefits from just getting to sleep as much as a couple of hours worth of shut-eye. He purportedly used a spoon to wake himself up just as he lost consciousness.
9. Caffeine Nap
Yes I had to read this one twice too; I always thought that caffeine kept you awake. But according to an article if you have a cup of coffee the take a power nap you will wake up feeling refreshed and ready to go.
10. Lucid Dream
No it’s not a scene from the Minority Report, apparently you can teach yourself to lucid dream; whereby you can direct your dream in which ever direction you want due to knowing you are sleeping. No more will you wake up in a cold sweat from turning up at work naked!

If all else fails then you probably need to buy a new mattress, And if this fails then you may want to visit your doctor for some advice.

The Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Beers

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the story of the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. _They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar he shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. _They agreed it was_.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. H e asked once more if the jar was full. _The students responded with an unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else---the small stuff.
'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.

The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you. 'Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented. The professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.'

The beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, **_there's always room for a couple of beers with a friend_**.'

Natural Dandruff Remedies

Dandruff is an extremely annoying skin disorder of the scalp. It is a problem that affects half of the world population. There are many natural dandruff remedies that may help you to get rid of dandruff.

1. One of the common natural dandruff remedies is tea tree oil. Tea tree oil is an important ingredient of many anti-dandruff shampoos.

2. Add two spoonfuls pure vinegar in six spoonfuls water, and apply it on the scalp with cotton wool before going to bed. Wash your hair next morning. After shampooing, rinse again with vinegar water. Continue this once a week for at least three months.

3. Use a medicated anti-dandruff shampoo. It will reduce the speed of the growth of the cells on the scalp, thus lessening the cell replacement and decreasing the amount of dandruff. The shampoo should also have an antiseptic that will help prevent infection of your scalp so as to reduce itchiness.

4. Stop using hairsprays, gels and hair-coloring products. They are the main culprit that harms your hair and scalp.

5. Another natural dandruff remedy is neem oil. It gives relief from itchiness and redness of scalp associated with dandruff and psoriasis conditions.

6. Restrict yourself from changing shampoos everyday and stick to one that suits your constitution and scalp condition. Always keep the scalp clean by regular cleansing to prevent hair fall and other hair related problems.

7. Mix one teaspoon lemon juice with two teaspoons vinegar. Massage this mixture to the scalp. After massaging, apply egg shampoo to the hair. This is a very common natural dandruff remedy.

8. Boil two cups dried thyme and water in a span of 10 minutes. When the concoction cools, massage the hair and scalp and let it stay for half an hour. Then wash with water.




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Online Dating Advice

Dating can be a fun if you have a great date. Online dating or Internet Dating is very popular these days. But while dating online has the advantages in its own, over the period of time this has been misused and is corrupted by many disadvantages.
Online Dating is fun and convenient but still one has to be very careful while dating with someone they hardly know. To improve your love life, an important online dating advice is to first of all, 'stay positive'. There are more than 6 billion people on this planet and there is at least one person that is meant for you. There is plenty of romance to go around.

THE best online dating advice you can use is:
Your attitude is an important ingredient in your dating success. You must have a good attitude. Whether online or in the real world of close and personal, your attitude is everything. Your attitude about yourself and how you expect others to treat you, comes through everything you do. It doesn't matter if you are creating a profile, writing an email, talking over the phone or at a chic coffee house, who you are and your attitude speaks volumes.

Another online dating advice worth taking note is not to take everything so seriously. Every situation is different. Judge the situation and follow your gut instinct. Or ask your close one if you find yourself in a tight spot. But here are certain tips which may help you in determining & improving your personality to be the perfect person one has ever met.

Here are some online dating advices which may help you in safe and sound online dating.

Start slow.
This online dating advice enables you to be on the lookout for odd behavior or inconsistencies. If anything makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection.
Guard your anonymity.
In this part of online dating advice, never include your last name, real email address, personal Web site URL, home address, phone number, place of work, or any other identifying information in your profile or initial emails you exchange with other members. Exercise caution and common sense.
This online dating advice lets you guard against trusting the untrustworthy.
Request a photo.
Getting a photo is a good online dating advice because it will give you a good idea of the person's appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling about your correspondent.
Talk via telephone.
A valuable online dating advice is talking over the phone. It can reveal much about a person's communication and social skills.
Meet when you are ready.
A good online dating tip is to never obligate to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy.


By: May Tan provide tips and review on free dating site.

No Need to Worry

That is the gospel, the message that I preached to you. You are saved by the gospel if you hold firmly to it — unless it was for nothing that you believed. – 1 Corinthians 15:2

My wife, Christine, and I arrived early in the hospital for the result of my mother in law’s angiogram. It would determine if she’d need an angioplasty, a heart bypass operation or just medications.The silence in the area added to the tension we felt. Questions after our meeting with the doctor the night before made us worried. What is the true condition of her heart? Can she handle a heart procedure? How risky is it? Where do we get the money for the operation?But even as we worried, a stream of text messages from friends, family, community members and officemates assured us that everything would be alright.We agreed to stop worrying about our concerns and decided to pray. This time, we used the silence in the lounge to talk to the Lord and entrust everything to Him. Shortly after we ended our prayer, the nurse called us. The doctor broke the great news that an angioplasty or bypass operation was no longer necessary.We didn’t have to worry after all. All that was needed was trust. -Alvin Fabella

REFLECTION:
Believing in the Gospel means entrusting everything to Him. Which areas of your life do you still need to surrender to Him?

Lord, You are worthy of trust. I replace my fears with faith in You.


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10 Ways to Start Taking Control of Your Life

At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many of us with ADD develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

1. Take Good Care of Yourself . It's much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.

2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For. Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions. A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Refrain from Using Absolutes. Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.

5. Detach From Negative Thoughts. Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don't follow it.

6. Squash the "ANTs". In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr. Daniel Amen talks about "ANTs" - Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like "Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me," or "The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Practice Lovin', Touchin' & Squeezin' (Your Friends and Family) . You don't have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn't touch!

8. Increase Your Social Activity. By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!

9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person. Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination. If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It's never productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented, it's just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment - go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.

When it comes to the corporate world, protocol is pretty much the religion. To know the things needed to do are the basics of productivity, but interaction and having a steady mind makes up the entire thing to true productivity. There are those who seem to work well even under pressure, but they're uncommon ones and we are human and imperfect. To get these little things like stress under our skins won't solve our problems. Sometimes it takes a bit of courage to admit that we're turning to be workaholics than tell ourselves that we're not doing our best.



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5 Mistakes Women Make With Men

By: Elliot Beers
For some women, sustaining a worthwhile relationship with a man is almost like trying to win the lottery. They have no trouble talking to men or even dating them, but for whatever reason they can not build enough attraction from their partners to keep them coming back for more. Here are some mistakes women make that can send a man running in the opposite direction.

Too Much Information
While it is important to get to know the person you are dating, some women simply don’t leave enough to the imagination. If you find yourself talking about family problems and old boyfriends on your first few dates, then chances are that you are guilty of revealing too much. The initial period of dating should be absolute bliss for both sides, and not dragged down by skeletons in the closet.

Not Enough Listening
It can be refreshing to meet new people and have the opportunity to share your opinions and dreams, just remember that your new man is also excited to the same. Taking control of the conversation or forcing your ideals on someone is not romantic. Make sure you provide adequate openings in your dialogue for responses. A simple way to make sure you are not taking over the spotlight is to ask your date questions. This will give them a chance to share their feelings without interrupting you.

Dishonesty
Some women become so self-conscious about themselves that they stretch the truth about everything from finances to outside interests. They want so badly to attract a good man that they believe saying what he wants to hear is the easiest route to take. Of course this strategy may work for the first few dates, but ultimately the truth will come out and you will be exposed. Being honest keeps your conscience clear and will help you meet someone with the same interests as you.

High Expectations
It is natural to be excited about the prospect of new love, but you have to be careful not to let expectations spoil the fun. Guys don’t want to hear about your plans for marriage and family life early in a relationship. You have to attract them with your personality and charm before they will even consider a second date. The bottom line is to let things progress naturally. Not only can expectations eliminate a perfectly suitable candidate, but they take the spontaneity out of romance.

Controlling Yourself
The big secret to making a man want you is creating a curiosity or mystery about yourself. You want him to fantasize about you and wonder which direction your romance will take him. For this reason you need to lead him along slowly. Control your passions and keep him coming back for more. Be patient to see if he will wait for you. If he does then you know you have the beginning of a strong attraction.

There is good reason why some women consistently falter with men while others seem to catch them like fish. It is all about presentation and focusing on the natural male desires. This means making him feel good about himself and keeping him guessing on what your next move will be. Avoiding mistakes like talking too much and creating ridiculous expectations will give you the opportunity to set this strategy in motion.

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Remedies By Using Tomato

By: Kevin Pederson
There are many tomato lovers all over the world and they would be more than happy to know the importance of tomato. The number of qualities tomato possesses is impeccable making it one of the finest fighting machines for cancer. Ketchup is one of the favorite thing kids like to have. If not anything the children would easily lick all the ketchup from the plate. It is one of the best ways to provide the needed anti-oxidants, though having it in excess may not be good for you. These anti-oxidants remove the free radicals which are implicated in causing diseases like cancer.

Other than preventing cancer it also prevents heart attack due to abundance of vitamin C and E. Tomato also contains lycopene - a fabulous anti-oxidant, which prevents bad cholesterol in the blood. This anti-oxidant gives tremendous boost in the fight for cancer. Lycopene happens to prevent cancer of the mouth pharynx, esophagus, stomach, colon and rectum. It also reduces risk of prostrate and cervical cancer.

The presence of vitamin C in tomatoes helps it to fight diseases like asthma. It is a useful anti-oxidant which prevents asthma and curbs its development which causes further problems. Children suffering from asthma and problems like constant wheezing can find relief if they have rich vitamin C diet. Vitamin C deficiency causes easy bruising as well as a disease called scurvy. By having fruits and vegetables which are rich in vitamin C can cure many of your health problems.

Home Remedies From Tomato

Tomato is known to treat the skin disease known as eczema. By drinking tomato juice everyday you can see the difference.

If you want to loose weight, have a raw tomato early morning. It would help to remove those extra pounds you been carrying around.

Having raw tomatoes can provide relief from mouth ulcers. Gargling tomato juice 3 to 4 times a day would also help.

If you love having a farm but are not sure how to kill those worms here is an easy solution. Use 10 -15 tomato leaves for 1 liter water. Immerse these leaves in the required water for 24 hours. Strain it and use the water as an insecticide especially for cabbage worms.

To remove dark circles under your eyes make a paste by using 1 tsp tomato juice, 1/2 tsp lemon juice, a pinch of turmeric powder and a pinch of gram flour. Apply this paste under your eyes and keep it for 10 minutes. You will notice the difference with regular use.


Warning: The reader of this article should exercise all precautionary measures while following instructions on the home remedies from this article. Avoid using any of these products if you are allergic to it. The responsibility lies with the reader and not with the site or the writer.
About the Author:
Kevin Pederson can guide you about home remedies and provide different ways to prevent these illnesses. Natural Cure for Muscle Spasms. A common problem which can cause serious trouble can be treated with the use of herbal remedies.

$20.00 Bill

Sometimes we just need to be reminded!
A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20.00 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?"
Hands started going up. He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this.
He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill. He then asked, "Who still wants it?" Still the hands were up in the air.
Well, he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty.
"Now, who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air.
My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way.
We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.
Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who Do Love you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by Who we Are.

You are special to the Lord , " Don't EVER forget it."

Beauty Tips for Men

Most men will not admit to needing beauty tips but deep down some men are just as insecure about their looks as women are. Men freak out at the sign of gray hair as much as women do, the best way to years off the way you look is to get rid of gray hair. You should begin covering it up as soon as you begin to see it, if you wait until there is a lot then it becomes more noticeable. By using products like Just for Men you can color that gray away.

David Gandy, 2007 beautiful man, British model If you have hair that is a little on the long side and you start to notice that you are going bald. Try cutting your hair to a shorter style. Avoid the comb over altogether it just makes you seem older. As you begin to lose hair on top you may notice nose, ear and back hair. You can trim ear and nose hair and if you wish to you can get a wax to remove any unwanted back hair.

For skin care,
try using a light moisturizer on the skin with sunscreen. It is just as good for men to get into a daily regimen for skin care. Do a cleansing then use an exfoliate scrub or mask and then follow with a light moisturizer. Once your skin begins to get smoother and softer, shaving won’t be such a chore. Also include your hands and feet in your daily grooming routine. Use a pumice stone to remove dead skin cells and then moisturize, you don’t have to use the pumice every day but try to do it at least once a week.

Some extra grooming tips are:
If you are not the ironing type of person then right after drying your clothes in the dryer remove them so they do not wrinkle. In the warm and hot weather, wear light colors and cotton clothes. These fabrics will absorb less heat and any stains will be kept at a minimum. Also, to avoid embarrassing stains, consider trimming or shaving your under arm hair. There will be fewer odors and you will actually be cooler.

Here is a tip for extending the life of your razors,
buy a bottle of mineral oil and some rubbing alcohol. When you are done shaving, clean out the razor and dry them. Then completely submerse the razor head in a shallow dish of mineral oil, use the rubbing alcohol to wash away the mineral oil.

The Optimist Creed !

Promise Yourself ,

Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can
disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to
every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel like there is
something in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your
optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best,
and expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on the
greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give
every living person you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too
strong for fear, and too happy to permit the
presence of trouble.

Cellulite: The Biggest Female Epidemic

Cellulite is probably one of the most embarrassing of all physical faults that women have.
Cellulite isn’t just a problem with the obese or overweight either. Normal sized and even skinny women suffer from cellulite as well!
It has been surveyed that 90% of ALL women have cellulite somewhere on their bodies. That leaves only a small 10% who are actually free from this problem.
Now before you start hating those women’s guts for being so lucky, you should ask yourself what you can do to get rid of your cellulite so that you will be a part of that 10%.
Eventually as enough women begin to solve this cellulite problem and rid themselves of cellulite, the 10% who are free from cellulite will grow to 15% and the 90% who suffer from cellulite will decrease to 85%, and on and on.
You little knew that ridding yourself of cellulite and helping your friends and family to do the same could have such a momentous effect, did you?

Such Cute Dimples!
Everyone thinks dimples are adorable, but thats only when they’re on your face. They don’t look quite so cute when they’re on your thighs, hips or any of the many other places of which we women are cellulite prone.
“What help is there for my cellulite?” You might ask.
Thats a good question since there are so many different claims about products and treatments that will supposedly “Diminish Cellulite In 10 Days!” or whatever claim they put out.
What woman wouldn’t want to try these just to see if they would work for her?
But sadly in most cases you’ll be throwing your time and money away on these false or misleading claims that will not help cellulite but will only drain your bank account.
There are a lot of real things you can do to help rid yourself of cellulite. Proactive things that don’t involve liposuction, or having your thighs vacuumed over.

Here are 4 of the main ways to combat cellulite:
1. Certain exercises which target certain areas with cellulite help a great deal.
2. Eating a properly balanced diet is tremendously successful in clearing the toxins and fatty tissue from your body that result in cellulite.
3. Even massages and saunas have been proven to help since they aid in the elimination process, which clears fatty build up, and in turn clears cellulite.
4. Drinking more water also helps with elimination and cleansing your system from cellulite. So be sure to get your 6-8 glasses each and every day.

Interesting Tidbit
It’s also an interesting fact to know that men don’t get cellulite. Even when they get obese or fat.
Their fat deposits are structured differently than ours so the skin doesn’t dimple when they get bigger, causing cellulite, as it does with women.
This of course is a relief to women everywhere because no woman wants a man who has the same physical defect she herself suffers from and hates so passionately.
So there you have it. Try the above listed methods to naturally help diminish your cellulite and become one of those lucky 10%.


by Beth Scott
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7 Ways to Look Taller

Altitude has a lot to do with attitude, but the right clothes can really help.

1.) Select a monochromatic palette when choosing clothes. One color family from head to toe tricks the eye and brain into thinking "long and lean."

2.) Select pieces that won't break up your body into blocks. Women, choose a long lean dress, or no-waist pants and skirts; men, opt for thin belts the same color as your trousers.

3.) Go for well-tailored looks, princess seams and darts. A looser fit can often look wider.

4.) Pick vertical detailing: thin stripes, visible seams, interesting buttons and contrasting ties.

5.) Wear heels. The new square heels and stacked slides are more comfortable than stilettos ever were, so take advantage.

6.) Great posture is an easy way to add height, or the appearance of it.

7.) Lose weight if you're heavy. Slim will always look longer.

Tips & Warnings

* Today's simple colors and cuts are fashion-friendly for taller-wannabes. Knee-length skirts with similar-colored hose and shoes will help.
* Cuffless pants elongate the appearance.
* Hats, upswept hair, or anything that adds height will make you look taller.
* Lose the capri pants, calf-length skirts or anything that cuts your eye off at an odd or midlimb point.
* Avoid thick, wide belts or anything obviously horizontal, which will make you appear shorter.


By : eHow Fashion, Style & Personal Care Editor

The top ten tips to lure a woman

Finding hard to land a date? Well, Sydney writer Sam de Brito's new book, 'Building a Better Bloke' might just help. Brito has admitted that he has had his share of dud dates - partly because his past approach to dating involved getting drunk.
But now, he has made a few adjustments when it comes to luring the opposite sex. And he has urged other Aussie men to do the same in his new book.
"I'm not trying to teach men how to be a pick-up artist or a stud, I want to show men how to build self-esteem, build a life for themselves - which in turn will attract women," the Courier Mail quoted Brito, as saying.
According to the 39-year-old, his generation has lost the art of communicating with women.
"Aussie guys have fallen through the cracks. We like to think of Australian men as bold and confident and a lot of them aren't," he said.
He said that for some, the biggest fear in life is approaching and striking up a conversation with a woman.
In this case, he has suggested practice and a sense of humour is the key.
The catchphrase of his book is: "Find a life and you'll find love".
"The biggest thing is not to look cool, but to have a life with lots of interests. Become involved in your life, look after yourself, and you're primed to meet someone," he said.
He said that good manners and keeping clean are also important.
"Be a gentleman. Respect yourself. Even if you're funny and charming, you're not going to get far with a woman if you smell," he said.
Besides clean sheets and clean fingernails, 'Building a Better Bloke' also reminds men of the simple things, like holding a door open for women.

De Brito's 10 tips for lure woman:

1- Stay healthy

2- Don't abuse alcohol or drugs

3- Have a job that means something to you

4- Be busy with your own activities

5- Be well groomed and clean

6- Have a sense of humour

7- Talk to women as individuals, not as a gender

8- Be a gentleman

9- Don't mix with loser friends

10- Have a clean bedroom, clean sheets - and a lamp to create romantic lighting

Interesting Conversation last Century

An Atheist Professor of Philosophy speaks to his Class on the Problem Science has with GOD, the ALMIGHTY.
He asks one of his New Christian Students to stand and .. . .

Professor : You are a Christian, aren't you, son ?
Student : Yes, sir.
Professor : So you Believe in GOD ?
Student : Absolutely, sir.
Professor : Is GOD Good ?
Student : Sure..
Professor : Is GOD ALL - POWERFUL ?
Student : Yes.
Professor : My Brother died of Cancer even though he Prayed to GOD to Heal him. Most of us would attempt to help others who are ill. But GOD didn't. How is this GOD good then? Hmm? ( Student is silent )
Professor : You can't answer, can you ? Let's start again, Young Fella. Is GOD Good?
Student : Yes.
Professor : Is Satan good ?
Student : No.
Professor : Where does Satan come from ?
Student : From . . . GOD . . .
Professor : That's right. Tell me son, is there evil in this World?
Student : Yes.
Professor : Evil is everywhere, isn't it ? And GOD did make everything. Correct?
Student : Yes. Professor : So who created evil ?
(Student does not answer)
Professor : Is there Sickness? Immorality? Hatred? Ugliness? All these terrible things exist in the World, don't they?
Student : Yes, sir.
Professor : So, who Created them ?
( Student has no answer )
Professor : Science says you have 5 Senses you use to Identify and Observe the World around you.. Tell me, son . . . Have you ever Seen GOD?
Student : No, sir.
Professor : Tell us if you have ever Heard your GOD?
Student : No , sir.
Professor : Have you ever Felt your GOD, Tasted your GOD, Smelt your GOD? Have you ever had any Sensory Perception of GOD for that matter?
Student : No, sir. I'm afraid I haven't.
Professor : Yet you still Believe in HIM?
Student : Yes. Professor : According to Empirical, Testable, Demonstrable Protocol, Science says your GOD doesn't exist. What do you say to that, son?
Student : Nothing. I only have my Faith.
Professor : Yes, Faith. And that is the Problem Science has.
Student : Professor, is there such a thing as Heat?
Professor : Yes.
Student : And is there such a thing as Cold?
Professor : Yes.
Student : No sir. There isn't.
( The Lecture Theatre becomes very quiet with this turn of events )
Student : Sir, you can have Lots of Heat, even More Heat, Superheat, Mega Heat, White Heat, a Little Heat or No Heat. But we don't have anything called Cold. We can hit 458 Degrees below Zero which is No Heat, but we can't go any further after that. There is no such thing as Cold. Cold is only a Word we use to describe the Absence of Heat. We cannot Measure Cold. Heat is Energy.
Cold is Not the Opposite of Heat, sir, just the Absence of it.
( There is Pin - Drop Silence in the Lecture Theatre )
Student : What about Darkness, Professor? Is there such a thing as Darkness?
Professor : Yes. What is Night if there isn't Darkness?
Student : You're wrong again, sir. Darkness is the Absence of Something… You can have Low Light, Normal Light, Bright Light, Flashing Light . . . But if you have No Light constantly, you have nothing and its called Darkness, isn't it? In reality, Darkness isn't. If it is, were you would be able to make Darkness Darker, wouldn't you?
Professor : So what is the point you are making, Young Man ?
Student : Sir, my point is your Philosophical Premise is flawed.
Professor : Flawed ? Can you explain how?
Student : Sir, you are working on the Premise of Duality. You argue there is Life and then there is Death,
a Good GOD and a Bad GOD. You are viewing the Concept of GOD as something finite, something we can measure. Sir, Science can't even explain a Thought. It uses Electricity and Magnetism, but has never seen, much less fully understood either one. To view Death as the Opposite of Life is to be ignorant of the fact that Death cannot exist as a Substantive Thing. Death is Not the Opposite of Life: just the Absence of it. Now tell me, Professor, do you teach your Students that they evolved from a Monkey?
Professor : If you are referring to the Natural Evolutionary Process, yes, of course, I do. Student : Have you ever observed Evolution with your own eyes, sir?
( The Professor shakes his head with a Smile, beginning to realize where the Argument is going )
Student : Since no one has ever observed the Process of Evolution at work and Cannot even prove that this Process is an On - Going Endeavor, Are you not teaching your Opinion, sir? Are you not a Scientist but a Preacher?
( The Class is in Uproar )
Student : Is there anyone in the Class who has ever seen the Professor's Brain?
( The Class breaks out into Laughter )
Student : Is there anyone here who has ever heard the Professor's Brain, Felt it, touched or Smelt it? . . .No one appears to have done so. So, according to the Established Rules of Empirical, Stable, Demonstrable Protocol, Science says that You have No Brain, sir.
With all due respect, sir, how do we then Trust your Lectures, sir?
(The Room is Silent. The Professor stares at the Student, his face unfathomable) Professor : I guess you'll have to take them on Faith, son.
Student : That is it sir . . . The Link between Man & GOD is FAITH.
That is all that Keeps Things Moving & Alive.


It turned out later that the student was Albert Einstein..

A Guide to Escaping Materialism and Finding Happiness

Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city. - George Burns

Money can’t buy you love. It can’t buy you happiness either.

Today’s materialistic world often urges us to buy the coolest gadgets, the trendiest clothes, bigger and better things, but research shows that possessions and purchases don’t buy us happiness. According to an article on CNN:

By and large, money buys happiness only for those who lack the basic needs. Once you pass an income of $50,000, more money doesn’t buy much more happiness, [according to a happiness studies].

So while we are being pushed towards materialism, it’s for monetary gain by corporations, not for our own happiness. Unfortunately, it’s hard to escape the trap of materialism, and find happiness in other ways than buying stuff online or finding joy in the mall.

But it’s possible. Here’s a guide to finding a materialism-free life and discovering true happiness.

Escaping Materialism
All around us, there are messages telling us to buy stuff. On the Internet (blogs included), we see continuous advertising trying to get us to purchase a product or service. It’s the main reason for television, and movies are continually made with products placed throughout, so that we aren’t always sure what is advertising and what was put in there by the director.

Flip on the radio or open up a newspaper or magazine, and you’re bombarded my more advertising. Go to a shopping center/mall, and the urge to buy comes from every direction.

This message to continually buy, buy, buy … and that it will somehow make us happpier … is drilled into our heads from the days of Happy Meals and cartoons until the day we die. It’s inescapable.

Well, almost. You could go and live in a cabin in the woods (and that actually sounds nice), or you could still live in our modern society, but find ways to escape materialism.

Here are some suggestions:

* Limit television.
Do you really enjoy watching TV for hours? Think about which shows you really, really love, and only watch during that time. When the commercials come on, go do something else. Or use Tivo to watch TV. You can even give up cable TV entirely, if you’re brave — I have, and it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done.
* Eschew the news.
Journalists will never tell you this, but if they’re completely honest, they’ll confess that the most important part of any news company, from TV or radio news to Internet or print new, is the advertising division. It’s the division that pays the paychecks of the rest of the company. The news is important in driving traffic to the advertising. So when you’re watching or reading news, you’re really being sucked in to advertising. Try this instead: boycott the news for a week. I’ve done it for about two years, and it hasn’t hurt me a bit. In fact, it’s helped me a lot.
* Limit Internet reading.
I’m not saying you should cancel your cable Internet subscription or anything. I love reading blogs. But find just those that you truly love reading, that give you the most value, and limit your reading to those. And just do it once a day, for 30 minutes or so. If you can do that, you’ve gone a long way towards tearing yourself away from advertising.
* Give up magazines for books.
Magazines are also designed with advertising in mind. And they rarely give you much value. Try reading an ad-free book instead. It’s a much better use of your time.
* Don’t go to the mall or Walmart.
The only purpose of these places is for you to spend money. If you just want a place to spend your Saturday afternoon, find a place where you don’t need to spend money to have fun — a park or a beach, for example. If you need to buy something, go to a single store (not the mall) and go in and get what you need. Don’t browse and walk around looking at stuff. You’ll get sucked in.
* Monitor your urges.
When you’re online, or watching TV, or at a store, keep track of the number of times you want to buy something. Keep a little notebook or index card, and just put tally marks. Once you become more aware of your urges to buy things, you can start to control them. If you could control them, limiting your consumption of media (see above tips) isn’t really necessary — although I would argue that it still gives you a better quality of life.
* Use a 30-day list.
If you still really want to buy something, put it on a list, and write down the date you added the item to the list. Now tell yourself you cannot buy that item for 30 days. It might be difficult, but you can do it. When the 30 days have passed, if you still want it, then buy it. But you can’t buy anything (besides essentials like groceries) without putting it on the list for 30 days first. Many times, our urges to buy something will pass during this waiting period.
* Declutter.
I find it pretty amazing to see all the crap I buy over a period of years, when I go through my closets and other possessions and start getting rid of stuff I don’t use or want anymore. It’s a gratifying process, and at the same time, it makes me realize how useless all our consumer shopping is. I don’t need any of the stuff! When you do this, you may be less likely to buy more stuff. Especially if you enjoy the decluttered look of your house as much as I do.
* Find other forms of entertainment.
There are other things to do besides watch TV or movies or read magazines or newspapers or the Internet. Try playing sports or exercising, or playing board games or creating art or writing or reading a book. Try doing fun things with your kids or visiting relatives and other loved ones. Try volunteering with a charity. I’m sure you could come up with 100 free or cheap things to do.
* Buy used.
When you get the urge to buy something, and you’re convinced that it’s needed, try finding it used instead of new. Look in thrift shops or garage sales or flea markets or similar places.

A True Path to Happiness
So, if you’re able to escape materialism, how can you find true happiness? There are many ways, and each of us is different, but here are some things I suggest trying:

* Grateful list.
Make a list of things about which you’re grateful in your life. Give thanks for them daily.
* Think positive.
Try eliminating negative thinking from your life, and thinking positive instead.
* Small pleasures.
Make a list of small things that give you great pleasure. Sprinkle them throughout your day. Notice other small pleasures as you go through your day.
* Kindness.
Practice random acts of kindness and compassion. Do it anonymously. Help those in need. Volunteer. Make someone smile.
* Love.
Make an intimate connection with your loved ones. Develop your friendships. Spend time with them, converse, understand them, make them happy.
* Health.
Exercise and eat healthy — it sounds trite, but it can bring great happiness to your life.
* Meaning.
It’s often useful to find meaning, either through a church or spiritual way, or through those we love in life or through the things we’re passionate about. Give yourself a purpose.
* Flow.
Eliminate distractions, and really pour yourself into whatever you’re doing. If it’s writing an article, like this one, really put yourself into it, until you forget the outside world.
* Know yourself.
Become attuned to what brings you happiness. Study yourself. Learn about what you love, and about your ability to love. Increase your capacity for compassion.

What brings you happiness? How do you feel about materialism, and is it worth trying to escape it? Let us know in the comments.


By : Leo B. a freelance writer
( uncopyright article )

Interesting Facts About Tea

Tea comes from the leaves of a tree called Camellia sinensis. The three main types of tea are Black, Oolong and Green. Herbal tea does not come from the leaves of a tea plant, therefore, is not considered to be real tea. Roots, stems, flowers and parts of plants are used to make herbal tea.

Studies in the Netherlands have shown that men who drink black tea which contains catechins are 50 percent less likely to die of ischemic heart disease. This takes place when our arteries become clogged and are unable to work properly because of constriction.

Recent studies have shown that drinking between one and two cups of tea per day may promote fertility by stopping abnormalities in our chromosomes. In a recent test 250 women drank as little as half a cup of tea per day and their pregnancy rates were twice as high as those who did not.

To cure puffy eyes lie in a horizontal position and place either a moist teabag or tea compress over both eyes and leave for about 20 minutes. The swelling around the eyes will to your amazement disappear and your eyes will return to their former glory.

Tea will absorb odors around it. Here is a tip for removing food odors from your hands. Pour some tea over your hands and the tea will remove all odors from your fingers, and leave them smelling great. It even works great with fish odors!

Black tea bags can be used to treat planter warts. Tannin in tea is acidic and can be just as effective in removing warts as various over the counter wart removers! Leave a cooled bag on the wart for about 15 minutes three times daily and slowly the wart will shrink and disappear.

Scientists have reported for many years that men in Asian countries who drink green tea have very low instances of prostate cancer. Many prominent researchers believe that this is due to green tea containing many powerful antioxidants and preventative anti-cancer agents.

In recent Australian studies CSIRO scientists found that the occurrence of skin cancer in laboratory mice was greatly reduced when they were given black tea. It is thought that polyphenols which are very strong antioxidants and are contained in the tea are the most likely reason for this phenomenon.

Tea can be used to soothe burns and sunburns. Put wet tea bags onto the affected areas or keep in place with gauze. You can also put tea into your bath water. This works for other types of burns as well.

The costliest teabag ever was created for the 75'th anniversary of the PG TIPS tea company. The bag was filled with two hundred and eighty diamonds and expensive limited edition tea leaves. The bag cost 7,500 pounds and would be auctioned to raise money for a Children's hospital in Britain.



About the Author:
Lorraine Bevere is the owner and operator of FOG Tea, a worldwide Tea Directory and a premier source of information about tea.
For more information, go to: http://fogtea.com Source: www.isnare.com

All About Yoga - It's Functions For Career, Life

By: Stephen Campbell
This article about yoga provides an idea on how it can help to balance your personal life and your career. Exact information is necessary so that you may be able to know about it so that you may implement its principles in your own self. But before that, let us have a backtrack on how did yoga influence people in the past.

Yoga has influenced a lot of people. Its concept is not just a mere body exercise that everyone can easily apply; it takes more than that because it also aims to develop human spiritual goal. However, during the past decades, it popularity had gone down due to the emergence of newly-introduced physical exercises program. It has only regained its popularity when its usefulness is recognized by more and more people who are now concern in there not just for physical growth but for the total way of life as human

This information about yoga is essential to those who are having a difficulty in balancing their working career and personal life. You can make yourself out of stress brought by hectic schedules; flexibility and stretch program can do it. To prove, at this very modern day, yoga exercises are applied by business executives and other prominent people because, as they say, tis can give them a satisfaction in putting their minds at peace- they are adopting to perfectly balance their career and as a person of personal.

Why this article about yoga discusses it? Well, as what has been said, it has potentials to acquiring healthy mind and bodies and this is specifically helpful for working individuals.

In today's trend, workaholic people are rushing to get there work done, eat lunch, and then back to work. And though being industrious brings goods and fortune to them, still they may suffer its negative effect that is slowly covering them, the pressure that their works bring may lead to health and personality problem. To cope, it has been proven that yoga can help them to help them to balance their work and life; yoga can give a wonderful feeling.

Indeed, it is due to its proven healing power why yoga gained its popularity. In fact, its recognized capacity for healing has extended and influenced the medical science. There are several doctors who recommend specific yogis as part of the healing process for their patients. Various strategies are currently being implemented in businesses and mainstream medical firms. Not only that, books that are all about yoga have been in great performance for subscriptions and Internet forums that are discussing information about yoga are in the Internet arena.

There are growing numbers of people who are learning all about yoga fueled by research proofs that it can really reduce stress, manage blood pressure, augment work performance and slow effects of aging. So, this ancient exercise, indeed, made a major comeback as more and more people want to have information about yoga and how can it be applied for developing the human total development.

It is also believed that performing yoga as part of military exercises can elevate their working performance and that is the reason why some of military forces has asked the medical institutions to conduct research for them to be able to establish a systematic way of yoga-military training integration.

It is of great advantage if you know even a little knowledge about it for it really can help to balancing working career and as a human person.


About the Author:
Stephen C Campbell (MBA, MSc) is an Entrepreneur, International Business Consultant. He has published articles about business in niche marketing and market segmentation at http://www.guidetomakingmoremoney.com/

Helpful Tips on Eye Care

With so many of us spending lots of time in front of the computer every day it comes to no surprise that research is showing a rise in visual problems. What can one do?
First, it’s important to find out how you can protect your eyes through eye health exams and by making a few minor changes in your computer viewing habits.

Positioning is everything
Correct positioning of your computer, keyboard and typing copy is essential. Your screen should be positioned about an arm’s length from your eyes and 20 degrees below eye level. Consider foot and wrist rests for added comfort.

Lighting can make all the difference
Room lighting should be diffuse, not direct, to reduce glare and reflections from your screen. Look into an internal or external glare screen and be sure to set your colour, contrast and brightness levels to suit you.

A little extra help for your glasses
Anti-reflective coatings on the lenses of your glasses can be applied by your optometrist to reduce discomfort and to ease reduced vision from bright and/or flickering light sources such as VDTs and fluorescent lights. And don’t forget, your doctor of optometry can talk to you about eyeglasses designed specifically for people who use computers a lot.

Take time out, our 20-20-20 rule
Step I :- After every 20 minutes of looking into the computer screen, turn your head and try to look at any object placed at least 20 feet away. This changes the focal length of your eyes, a must-do for the tired eyes.
Step II :- Try and blink your eyes for 20 times in succession, to moisten them.
Step III :- Time permitting of course, one should walk 20 paces after every 20 minutes of sitting in one particular posture. Helps blood circulation for the entire body.

It’s all in the blinking
Did you know that on average we blink 12 times per minute? But wait, did you know that when we’re on the computer we only blink 5 times per minute? That can add up to dry eyes. Relieve the discomfort by using artificial tear drops or gels and remember to blink!

Palming
Sit straight at your workstation and rub your palms against each other till you feel them warm. The warmth of your palms helps soothe and relax tired eyes. Then, lightly cup your eyes with your palms and relax for 60 seconds. Count the seconds in your mind. Repeat this exercise two to three times whenever your eyes feel tired, or as often as you want. While palming, you can either rest your elbows on your desk or keep away from the desk and cup your eyes. Both ways are fine.

Splash water on your face
During breaks, splash water on your face while closing your eyes. This has an overall relaxing effect and helps you feel refreshed.

Use tea bags
Keep two used tea bags in the refrigerator before you leave for work. Once you are home, place the tea bags on your eyes for a few minutes as you relax. This not only soothes tired eyes, but also reduces puffiness.

Eat healthy
Incorporate Vitamins A, C, and E on a daily basis; eat citrus fruits, green leafy veggies, tomatoes, spinach, poultry and dairy products. Pack a box of chopped carrots, cucumber and fresh fruits and munch in-between meals at the office.

The Wisdom in Hot Chocolate

A group of graduates, well established in their careers, were talking at a reunion and decided to go visit their old university professor, now retired.
During their visit, the conversation turned to complaints about stress in their work and lives. Offering his guests hot chocolate, the professor went into the kitchen and returned with a large pot of hot chocolate and an assortment of cups — porcelain, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite.
He then told them all to help themselves to the hot chocolate. When they each had a cup of hot chocolate in hand, the professor said:
"Notice that all the nice looking, expensive cups were taken, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress."
"The cup that you're drinking from adds nothing to the quality of the hot chocolate. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink."
"What all of you really wanted was hot chocolate, not the cup ... but you consciously went for the BEST cups." "And then you began eyeing each other's cups."
"Now consider this: Life is the hot chocolate; your job, money and position in society are the cups.
They are just tools to hold and contain life." "The cup you have does not define, nor change the quality of life you have.
Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the hot chocolate." The happiest people don't need the best of everything. They just make the best of everything that they have.
Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.
And enjoy your hot chocolate!!

Yogurt,Potato,Orange & Cucumber for your Face

Are you trying to keep yourself looking as good as possible, but you are constrained by a budget? There's a bunch of household items that can help to enhance your look without going through too much trouble. In this article, we'll be discussing exactly what you can do with things around the house to make your look shine.

* Do you want a mask that will nourish your face and leave it smooth and healthy? Try combining the following. Take one teaspoon of plain yogurt and 2-3 tablespoons of orange juice. Mix it in a bowl until it forms a paste, and then apply it to your face. The Vitamin C found in orange juice can do wonders for your complexion! Vitamin C is a necessary nutrient in the body due to the fact that it helps us to form collagen, a connective substance that is found in all parts of the body. Apply the mask for 5 minutes before washing it off.

* The cucumber trick is always a classic beauty move. Take a cucumber and grate it. Cover it, and place it in your freezer for right around 5 minutes. Take all but 2 teaspoons of the cucumber and mix it with plain yogurt. Next, take 2 pieces of surgical gauze and soak them in cold water. Take those 2 teaspoons of cucumber you set aside and place them in the centers of the pieces of gauze. Ball the two pieces of gauze into a teabag shape and place them over your eyes, applying the yogurt-cucumber mix to your face as a mask. In fifteen minutes, wash the substance off, and your face will be revitalized!

* Do you have puffy eyes? There can be many reasons that your eyes may be inflamed. It's important to keep your body well hydrated, ensuring that you are getting enough water throughout the day. Avoiding coffee and tea can also be helpful when trying to keep puffiness down. Cucumber slices and potato slices placed across the eyes can also help to reduce swelling and discoloration under the eyes. Keeping your head held high while sleeping with pillows can cause fluids to not build up around your eyes, which is important if you are trying to rid yourself of puffiness.

* Have chapped lips? Simple petroleum jelly can work wonders when it comes to revitalizing your lips. It is also helpful to exfoliate your lips around once per week by using a toothbrush on them, helping to remove dead cells.


by Beth Scott
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How to Accept Criticism with Grace and Appreciation

Every day, I get emails and comments that are amazingly positive and encouraging, and in truth these messages are the very thing that sustains my blogging. However, I also get negative comments now and then: criticism of my writing, and not nice criticism either.
How do you deal with criticism? I think the first reaction for most of us is to defend ourselves, or worse yet to lash back. And yet, while criticism can be taken as hurtful and demoralizing, it can also be viewed in a positive way: it is honesty, and it can spur us to do better. It’s an opportunity to improve.

Stop Your First Reaction
If your first reaction is to lash back at the person giving the criticism, or to become defensive, take a minute before reacting at all. Take a deep breath, and give it a little thought.
Personally, I tend to get a little angry when I’m criticized. But I have also taught myself not to react right away.
For example, I’ll let a critical email sit in my inbox for at least an hour before replying. Or I’ll walk away from someone instead of saying something I’ll regret later.
That cooling off time allows me to give it a little more thought beyond my initial reaction. It allows logic to step in, past the emotion. I don’t have anything against emotion, but when it’s a negative emotion, sometimes it can cause more harm than good. So I let my emotions run their course, and then respond when I’m calmer.
Turn a Negative Into a Positive
One of the keys to my success in anything I do is my ability to find positive things in things that most people see as a negative. Sickness forces me to stop my exercise program? That’s a welcome rest. Tired of my job? That’s a time to rediscover what’s important and to look for a better job. Supertyphoon ruined all my possessions? This allowed me to realize that my stuff wasn’t important, and to be thankful that my loved ones were still alive and safe. You can do the same thing with criticism: find the positive in it. Sure, it may be rude and mean, but in most criticism, you can find a nugget of gold: honest feedback and a suggestion for improvement. For example, this criticism: “You write about the same things over and over and your posts are boring and stale.”
Can be read: “I need to increase the variety of my posts and find new ways of looking at old things.” That’s just one example of course — you can do that with just about any criticism. Sometimes it’s just someone having a bad day, but many times there’s at least a grain of truth in the criticism. See it as an opportunity to improve — and without that constant improvement, we are just sitting still. Improvement is a good thing.
Thank the Critic
Even if someone is harsh and rude, thank them. They might have been having a bad day, or maybe they’re just a negative person in general. But even so, your attitude of gratitude will probably catch them off-guard. And you know what? My habit of thanking my critics has actually won a few of them over. They became friends of mine, and eventually a couple of them became some of my biggest proponents.
All because of a simple act of saying thank you for the criticism. It’s unexpected, and often appreciated. And even if the critic doesn’t take your “thank you” in a good way, it’s still good to do — for yourself. It’s a way of reminding yourself that the criticism was a good thing for you, a way of keeping yourself humble.
Learn from the Criticism
After seeing criticism in a positive light, and thanking the critic, don’t just move on and go back to business as usual. Actually try to improve.
That’s a difficult concept for some people, because they often think that they’re right no matter what. But no one is always right. You, in fact, may be wrong, and the critic may be right. So see if there’s something you can change to make yourself better.
And then make that change. Actually strive to do better.
When I received criticism that my posts weren’t as good as they could be, I strove to improve. I tried hard to write better posts. Now, did I actually accomplish that? That’s a matter of opinion — some will say no, while others seemed to enjoy the posts. Personally, I’ve been rather proud of some of these posts, and I’m glad I made the extra effort.
Be the Better Person
Too many times we take criticism as a personal attack, as an insult to who we are. But it’s not. Well, perhaps sometimes it is, but we don’t have to take it that way. Take it as a criticism of your actions, not your person. If you do that, you can detach yourself from the criticism emotionally and see what should be done.
But the way that many of us handle the criticisms that we see as personal attacks is by attacking back. “I’m not going to let someone talk to me that way.” Especially if this criticism is made in public, such as in the comments of a blog. You have to defend yourself, and attack the attacker … right?
Wrong. By attacking the attacker, you are stooping to his level. Even if the person was mean or rude, you don’t have to be the same way. You don’t have to commit the same sins.

Be the better person.
If you can rise above the petty insults and attacks, and respond in a calm and positive manner to the meat of the criticism, you will be the better person. And guess what? There are two amazing benefits of this:
1. Others will admire you and think better of you for rising above the attack. Especially if you remain positive and actually take the criticism well. This has happened to me, when people actually complimented me on how I handled attacking comments.
2. You will feel better about yourself. By participating in personal attacks, we dirty ourselves. But if we can stay above that level, we feel good about who we are. And that’s the most important benefit of all.

How do you stay above the attacks and be the better person? By removing yourself from the criticism, and looking only at the actions criticized. By seeing the positive in the criticism, and trying to improve. By thanking the critic. And by responding with a positive attitude.

A quick example: Someone criticizes one of my posts by saying, “You’re an idiot. I don’t understand what x has to do with y.”

My typical response will be to first, ignore the first sentence. And second, to say something like, “Thanks for giving me an opportunity to clarify that. I don’t think I made it as clear as I should have. What x has to do with y is … blah blah. Thanks for the great question!”

And by ignoring the insult, taking it as an opportunity to clarify, thanking the critic, using the opportunity to explain my point further, and staying positive, I have accepted the criticism with grace and appreciation. And in doing so, remained the better person, and felt great about myself.

By: Leo B. a freelance writer
( uncopyright article )

In The Face of an Enemy

When ridiculed, we bless; when persecuted, we endure. - 1 Corinthians 4:12

In one of the episodes of the TV series ER, Dr. Benton, a black American physician, was about to go home after working long hours in the hospital. It was his mom’s birthday and the family is throwing a party for her. On his way out, a skinhead is rolled into the ER with a tattoo on his arm saying “Die, Nigger, Die.” Dr. Benton attended to him and saved his life, consequently missing the birthday party of his mom.It takes a lot of courage to face an enemy, and even a greater braveness to actually do him good. But it is a call to all of us who wish to be true disciples of Christ. It is never easy to be holy but every time we go through the fire, every time we pass the test, Jesus is there on the other side, waiting to say, “Good job! Well done!” -Jane Gonzales

REFLECTION:
When you are treated like rubbish, do you try to get even or do you reply in kindness and try to heal the hurt?

Lord, grant me the gift of fortitude that I may handle well the adversities of life. Amen.

By: www.kerygmafamily.com

7 Creative Problem Solving Techniques

By: Kevin Sinclair
Have you ever encountered a problem only to become stumped trying to come up with a solution? How often have you found yourself saying that there is just no possible answer and you think that you have reached a dead end?

From time to time the problems that we are faced with may be so huge that one may feel like they are hammering against a brick wall. The stress involved with having to solve such a problem can be more than just a little overwhelming.

But have faith and rejoice, for there may be hope yet!

With a more optimistic mindset, a person will find that they are more creative when solving their problems. This article identifies seven creative problem-solving techniques.

1. Take note of assumptions and constraints with the problem. Oftentimes, these assumptions can obstruct our view of possible solutions. Note which assumptions are not valid and which need to be addressed.

2. You need to take a hard look at what the problem really is. Know the problem and have a concrete understanding of what it is about. By knowing what the problem is and how it works, you may find that you will have built a better foundation towards solving the problem.
Identify all the participating entities and then decide what their relationship is to one another. Take note of all the things you stand to gain or loss due to the current problem. Once you have considered the following you should have a clear and simple statement of what the problem is.

3. Try solving the problem in parts. For example, going from the more general views to the more detailed parts of the problem may solve it. This method is called the top down approach. First, write down a question and then come up with a general one-sentence solution, now you will be able to develop the solution even further.

4. It is important to keep a creative and analytical voice of reason at the back of your head. If someone else suggests a solution, be creative, think of how to make the solution work. Also think realistically and look for any possible weak links in the suggested solution.

5. Remain open-minded to the fact that there may be more than one solution to the problem. Keep track of them and go with the one that best fits your situation.

6. You know the old saying, "two heads are better than one." It is so very true, so remember to be open to new ideas. There may be answers for problems that you thought were unsolvable. You will benefit from listening to others, especially when the information is coming from someone who has had experience with a similar problem to yours.

7. Be patient. There is always the chance that the solution will present itself. Remember, no one is able to come up with the right invention the first time around.

So the next time that a problem arises and you think that you are unable to solve it, think again. The solution could be staring you in the face. It just takes some planning, time and a little creative thinking.



About the Author: Kevin Sinclair is the author of Making Net MLM Profits, and the publisher and editor of Net MLM Profits, a blog dedicated to providing information and tips for network marketers to succeed online. Net-MLM-Profits.com/

How to Speak Well and Confidently

Are you very shy when it comes to new surroundings, such as starting a new class or moving to a new area? Sometimes, it is necessary to overcome your shyness and speak confidently. By doing this, it can help you not only to share your ideas properly to others, but also to learn communicating with others. Here are a few steps to consider when speaking with confidence.

Steps

Learn how to have conversations with people. Your ideas or opinions may not always be accepted by others, but this is nothing unusual.

Open your mouth, express your beliefs! This will improve your courage.

Don’t be afraid and speak loudly. If you speak in a low voice, not only will others not be able to hear what you say, but you will also portray a submissive demeanor, which suggests the opposite of a confident one.

Make eye contact when you speak. For one thing, it is polite for others. Also, eye contact will help others to listen to your thinking carefully.

Praise yourself everyday! This will promote your own confidence, which is important when you speak. With more confidence, people will take your thinking more seriously.

Tips

Don’t be nervous when you make mistakes. Human error is far from being a new concept — nobody is perfect! It is normal for everyone to make mistakes. Just calm down and keep speaking bravely.

Try and try again! This may be difficult for a shy person at first, but you need to force yourself to speak, and not seclude your thoughts. If you have some ideas, then try to speak out! Don’t just keep them in your head.

If you have self confidence issues, try to think that you are the only one who has sound knowledge about the topic. Then go ahead and impart your knowledge to the audience in an effective way.

Remember that there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Don’t portray an exaggerated amount of confidence, or you will come off as arrogant, believing that your ideas are better than the ideas of everyone else.

5 Secrets For a Flat Stomach

Developing a lean, flat stomach takes time and patience, especially when it comes to those last few kilograms in those hard to lose places. There is only one way to lose fat in the so-called ’stubborn areas,’ and that is with the correct combination strength training (with a extra focus on mid-section), cardiovascular exercise (short, hard workouts), and stable blood sugar (keeps you from adding additional fat and makes it easier for the body to use body fat for fuel).

Spot Reduction is a Myth - The first thing you need to realize is that it is impossible to ’spot reduce’ fat from one specific part of the body. Fat loss occurs systemically, meaning that you can’t control where the fat comes from. When you burn fat for energy, you will draw it from all areas of the body, and the first place you tend to put it on will be the last place it comes off.

Cardio, cardio, cardio - Doing all the abs exercises in the world will do nothing if you have a layer of fat covering it. Doing strength training, or lifting weights, would help, but not as much as aerobic exercise. If you want to add some ab exercises in after the cardio, that’s great, but be sure to work your whole torso, not just the upper abs — that includes the lower abs, lower back and the muscles that wrap around your sides.
For example, Walking, jogging, bicycling, elliptical exercise and stair climbing are all great fat burners. Most give up early in the workout. During the first 10 minutes of aerobic activity, glycogen (stored carbohydrates) is the primary fuel source. Because you don’t burn significant amounts of fat until glycogen stores are depleted, the key to maximum fat loss is to work out aerobically for 30-60 minutes continuously per session.

Diet - Its best to stay away from fried food and too many sugary desserts. Abdominal fat loss is a 50% exercise, 50% nutrition combination. Regardless of how much you workout, if the number of calories you take in is greater than the amount you burn, you’ll still put on abdominal fat.

Eat Small Meals Regularly - You should try and spread your calories out into five small meals a day instead of 2 or 3 big ones so that you don’t overeat in one feeding.

Give it Time - If you want to have a flat stomach in 3 weeks, forget it. Losing fat takes time, and it’s unhealthy to lose too much weight too fast. Gradual weight loss is healthier, and more likely to be sustained over time. Go for a lifestyle change, something you can live with for the rest of your life, or you will just yo-yo. It’s a marathon, not a sprint.

Feel free to share your tips and stories in the comments section below!

5 Guaranteed Acne Care and Treatment Tips

Acne afflicts 9 out of 10 people today. Its not just a skin condition related to teens and puberty. Acne can cause severe and permanent scars both physically and mentally. There are thousands of products hawked on various infomercials on TV that claim to cure acne, but according to the American Medical Society and leading dermatologists 99% of these are ineffective at best. So, what really works? Here are five guaranteed acne care and treatment tips that will leave your skin cleaner, healthier and less susceptible to acne.

1. Hydrate. The fact is that 70% of Americans are not properly hydrated. When our bodies are not given enough water, the skin loses its elasticity and ability to quickly heal and repair. This can cause the follicles to become blocked and make the skin a breeding ground for bacteria. It is recommended that the average person drink 6-10 glasses of water every day. To test for proper hydration, pinch, pull and release the skin between your forefinger and thumb. If you are properly hydrated the pinched skin will quickly return and show elasticity. Dehydrated skin is similar to aged skin and will show less elasticity. It is a clinically proven fact that proper hydration will help any acne care or treatment.

2. Proper cleansing. Grocery and drug stores have hundreds of brands of soap on display and most are too harsh for your skin. These harsh soaps can dry out your skin, worsen acne, and increase the skins production of sebum or oil (which will attract acne causing bacteria in clogged pores). It is best to use a mild cleanser like Cetaphil or its cheaper generic equivalent (available at Target and Walmart). These cleansers will leave you with fresh, clean skin and are recommended by virtually every dermatologist in America.

3. Moisturize. That’s right, moisturize. Even for oily, acne prone skin. Proper moisturizing will actually result in healthier skin which is less susceptible to most acne conditions. Make sure you use a non-comodogenic moisturizer as it will not clog pores. As everyone has different and unique skin you should try several different moisturizers to find the one that works best for you. Some may have botanicals and herbs you don’t like or fare well with. There are many moisturizers, so find one that you really like and stick with it. Also, use a non-comodogenic high spf lotion for sun protection. The sun will age and dry out your skin and will increase production of acne causing oil.


4. Treat excess oil and clogged pores. For treatment of pimples and blackheads most dermatologists recommend benzoyl peroxide and salicylic acid solutions of 5 – 10% strength. They can also be used on very light acne. They will actually inflame and worsen moderate or severe acne and are not recommended for this - regardless what any infomercial may claim. In severe and moderate acne benzoyl peroxide will dry out the skin too much and have an irritating effect. Salicylic is more effective for deep cleaning of pores.

5. TCA skin peels. TCA peels have been clinically proven to be as effective as isotretinoin (trade name Accutane) in treating moderate to severe acne without the side effects. They are also used in almost every dermatologists and plastic surgeons office (They are usually referred to as the Obagi peel, blue peel, or Estheticians Choice TCA peel). TCA peels are a deeper skin peel and will increase skin regeneration (through increased skin exfoliation), return the skin pH or acidity back to normal (excess oil can alter the skins pH and make it a breeding ground for acne causing bacteria). In the past TCA peels were only available in dermatologists or plastic surgeons offices as a very expensive outpatient treatment. They can now be obtained through the internet for in home use at very reasonable prices everyone can afford. The best thing is that a TCA peel only needs to be applied once every 3-6 months depending on the depth desired and strength used.


David Maillie is a chemist with over 12 years experience in biochemical research and clynical analysis. For more information on TCA peels for in home use and great anti-acne products and ideas please visit http://www.bestskinpeel.com

12 Tips For Anti-Aging- Be Young And Sexy Again

By: Navneet Brar
Do you look older than your spouse or your friends?
Is your spouse no longer attracted towards you?

Stop! Here is the solution to your problem. Read my article only if you are really determined to get rid of all these problems. And if you cannot make any efforts to make yourself look younger and pleasing, then please quit now only. And for those enough determined, here are a few tips for you to look sexier, healthier and younger than you are:

1. Natural supplements-
Natural supplements provide additional antioxidants essential to healthy looking. You will find all natural products offered throughout the web.
2. Maintain healthy eating habits-
Eat lot of fruits and vegetables (raw), the best source of fiber and very refreshing. Avoid oily and fatty food; they lack in essential nutrients n cause obesity.
3. Beat Stress-
Sleep, exercise and a relaxing bath, are the best ways of beating stress. Aroma-therapy is another alternative.
4. Drink lots of Water-
Drink 8 glasses of water everyday, it is a must. Water flushes out the toxins from your body making it clean and less prone to disease.
5. Exercise Regularly-
Regular Physical exercise can delay or prevent illnesses like hypertension, obesity, heart diseases and osteoporosis. It tones your muscles and removes the toxins from your body in the form of sweat. Go for a warm shower after you exercise.
6. Avoid using Strong, Chemical based products on your Skin-
Use Natural skin care products, home made or commercial. Excessive and harsh application of the available skin care products is very harmful.
7. Vitamin C-
Vitamin C based skin care products oxidize very quickly making them harmful for your skin. So store them properly. If it turns Yellowish brown, means vitamin c has oxidized and product has expired.
8. Eat less carbohydrate and protein-
Foods rich in carbohydrates are the worst enemies of a trim tummy. For protein, take fish, egg, and bean instead of meat. Just eat them when you feel peckish between meals, instead of reaching out for chips or biscuits or chocolates.
9. Avoid exposure to excessive sun-
Our skin becomes dry, spotty and leathery with age. So put on a sunscreen after facial moisturizer everytime you go out in the sun or get a moisturizer with sunscreen.
10. Detox periodically-
Detoxification twice or thrice annually is good for blood and liver.
11. Stay Active n Stop Worrying-
Involve yourself in one or the other activity like reading, computer surfing, gardening, playing with your pet, etc. Take it easy. Things can never get better by worrying about them.
12. Go for Yoga or Meditation-
Do yoga for at least 30 minutes a day and see the remarkable positive change in you. You will feel as if you are back in your twenties. 100% Guaranteed!

Staying younger, sexier and healthier is now within your own grasp. What you need is a strong determination. For this you need proper skin care techniques, responsible life-style choices, and few minutes for yourself.



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Is He Cheating On Me?

by Kathleen Scarlett-Mancos
Is he cheating on me?"
If you find yourself asking this question more often than you like to admit, then you might have some good reasons to be asking it. If you think your relationship is in trouble, today is the time to start taking steps to patch things up with him now, or to find out for sure if he is cheating. It is driving you nuts wondering if your husband or boyfriend is faithful or not. You cannot imagine life without him, but you can't keep looking away when you suspect that he is fooling around with some other girl. You have seen disturbing changes in his behavior that you have been trying to ignore, but they keep nagging at you:

He is not as affectionate as he used to be.
When you first met, he couldn't keep his hands off of you, but now he sometimes seems like he doesn't want you to get too close.

He smiles when he sees who is calling on his cell phone,
but then he doesn't answer the phone. Is it because he doesn't want to talk to whoever it is while you are around? Does he call back as soon as you are out of sight?

He takes showers at times he never did before,
like soon after he gets home. He never used to seem to need such cleanliness. Is this a sign you should be worried that he has something to hide?

His hours aren't as regular as they used to be.
He doesn't call to tell you where he's going or when he'll be back the way he used to do. He was always so careful to keep you posted (and you did the same for him), but not anymore. What does this mean? You have to know for sure if your husband or boyfriend is cheating on you. Learn how to spy on him without his ever knowing you are suspicious.
Learn what signs to look for and what evidence to collect.
Learn what to do if you discover that he is having an affair.
Be prepared to follow the right steps, so you don't create more problems for yourself than you are already coping with.

Catch a Cheating Spouse is the resource you need to ease your mind. It has all the tools you need to find out if your lover really is still loyal to you, or if your suspicions are not unfounded and he is just a cheating moron.


About the Author
Kathleen Scarlett-Mancos juggles her family obligations with a writing and trading career. She has published numerous articles, including work at http://www.betterloveiseasy.com .

5 Simple Things To Tell If a Guy Likes You

How can you tell if a guy likes you?
Well, it's quite simple. What I'm going to share with you are some ways to tell if a man likes you. Once you know the clues guys use, you'll probably see that they're are alot of guys making moves on you, you just couldn't tell. Here are ways to tell if a guy likes you:

1. If he's always being really nice to you.
I know there are alot of nice guys out there. But if a guy is always holding the door for you, telling you how pretty you look, wishing you a good day, asking how your day was, then there's a good chance he likes you.

2. If you catch a guy always looking at you.
If you're at work and you notice that a certain guy is always looking at you. Then, he likes you. He's probably trying to build up enough courage to come talk to you.

3. Another way to tell if a man likes you is if he's always being friendly.
Some guys are nervous and shy, so to get to know you, they will try being your friends. If he always wants to hangout, come over to your house, ask if you need anything fixed around the house, or wants to always take you out to eat at lunch time at work, then he likes you.

4. If a guys is always talking about what he wants in life and his future,
he's telling you because he's interested in you. He's probably also telling you to impress you. It's what guys do to get women interested in them.

5. Another way to tell that a guy likes you is a tricky one.
If he picks on you all the time or is always giving you "love" taps, he's interested. Guys do this hoping you'll finally get the clue that they like you. If a man is doing any of the five things I outlined, he probably likes you. There are alot of men who are bashful, nervous around women, or playing hard to get like you. When around women they like, men sometimes act foolish or do things that doesn't make any sense.

Now that you know how to tell if a man likes you, the next time you have your eye set on Mr. Right, you'll know if he likes you or not.

by Marc DeAngelo

4 Simple Steps to Start the Exercise Habit

I have to admit that I have my ups and downs with the exercise habit. So I know that it’s not the easiest habit for most people, and most people’s experiences consist of starting and stopping and starting again. Which is fine — don’t beat yourself up about it. The important thing is starting again.

The Main Problems
So why do most people have trouble making exercise a regular habit? Well, there are probably a number of factors, but here are the main ones as I see it:

1. Too difficult.
People set out with a lot of ambition and enthusiasm, and start out with a big goal. “I’m going to go to the gym for an hour a day!” or “I’m going to run 30 minutes every day!” The problem is that the goal is too difficult to sustain for very long. You can do it for a few days, but you soon run out of energy, and it becomes a drag to do it.
2. Too many goals.
Often we set out to do too much. We want to run, and lift weights, and eat healthy, and quit sweets, and stop drinking soda. Well, those are multiple goals, and you cannot focus on the exercise habit if you’re trying to do all the others at the same time. Or we might start with one goal, but then get caught up in another goal (to stop procrastinating, for example), and lose our focus on the first one.
3. Not enough motivation.
It’s not a lack of discipline, it’s a lack of motivation. The most powerful motivators, in my experience, are logging your habit and public pressure. There are many others that help as well.

The 4 Simple Steps
So how do we solve those problems? Keep it simple. Here are the 4 simple steps to start the exercise habit (and keep it going). I should note that you can use these 4 steps to start any habit.

1. Set one easy, specific, measurable goal.
There are several keys to setting this crucial goal:
* Written: Write this down. Post it up. If you don’t write it down, it’s not important.
* Easy: Don’t — DO NOT — set a difficult goal. Set one that is super, super easy. Five minutes of exercise a day. You can do that. Work your way to 10 minutes after a month. Then go to 15 after 2 months. You can see what I mean: make it easy to start with, so you can build your habit, then gradually increase.
* Specific: By specific, I mean what activity are you going to do, at what time of day, and where? Don’t just say “exercise” or “I’m going to walk”. You have to set a time and place. Make it an appointment you can’t miss.
* Trigger: I recommend that you have a “trigger” right before you do your habit. For example, you might always brush your teeth right after you shower. The shower is the trigger for brushing your teeth, and because of that, you never forget to brush your teeth. Well, what will you do right before you exercise? Is it right after you wake up? Right after your coffee? Right when you get home? As soon as you take off for lunch? A trigger that you do every single day is important.
* Measurable: By measurable, I mean that you should be able to say, definitely, whether you hit or miss your goal today. Examples: run for 10 minutes. Walk 1/2 a mile. Do 3 sets of 5 pushups. Each of those has a number that you can shoot for.
* One goal: Stick to this one goal for at least a month. Two months if you can bear it. Don’t start up a second goal during that 30-day period. If you do, you are scrapping this goal.

2. Log it daily.
This is the key habit. If you can log your workout, you will start to see your progress, and it will motivate you to keep going. And you have to make it a habit to log it right away. Don’t put it off, and say you’ll do it before you go to bed. As soon as you’re done working out, log it. No exceptions. And don’t make the log complicated — that will only make you resist doing the log. Just the date, time, and what you did.

3. Report to others.
I think this is key. You can do it on your blog, on an online forum, with your spouse, or friends or family, or a workout partner, or a coach, or a group, or a class. However you set it up, make it part of the process that you have to report your daily workout to other people. It could be using an online log, or on a forum, or through email, or the phone, or just by telling your co-workers what you did this morning. But be sure that they know your goal, and that you are going to report to them, and be sure that they are expecting it every day.

4. Add motivation as needed.
The first three steps might be enough for you to get the habit going. But if not, don’t just give up. If you miss two consecutive workouts, you need to look at why, and add a new motivation. Rewards, more public pressure, inspiration, whatever it takes. Read this article for more on this. You can add one additional motivator, and then see if it works. If you miss two more consecutive workouts at any time, add another motivator. And so on, until the exercise habit sticks.


Thanks to:
Leo B. a freelance writer

8 Steps to a Natural Youthful Complexion

Do you long for that fresh, dewy, glow of youth? Pure, clean, baby soft skin? A natural and healthy complexion? Well look no further. The following steps could help you achieve the goddess like beauty you’ve always wanted!

1 – DIET. Yes – you are what you eat! It is true. The less junk that you eat, and the more clean foods that you eat, the better your skin will appear. Eat fresh fruits, veggies and salads, … particularly those rich in antioxidants such as dark berries and leafy greens. Other foods known to benefit your skin are salmon, and eggs (in moderation).

2 – WATER. No it’s not just an old wives tale. Proper hydration is vital for keeping your skin plump and youthful. Just look at the difference between the skin of a ripe and juicy apple, and the skin of one that has been left out in the sun too long. Try to drink pure, mineral or filtered water where possible.

3 – SLEEP. Beauty sleep isn’t called beauty sleep for nothing! A good nights sleep can do wonders for your looks. Make sure that you have a comfortable bed, clean bedding, and sleep in a well ventilated room to ensure that you wake up refreshed and rejuvenated each morning.

4 – FRESH AIR. Get out and about in nature. Breathe deep and enjoy the outdoors. A brisk walk will get your circulation pumping and it will show in your face.

5 – CLEANSE. Healthy skin is clean skin. Always remove make-up before going to bed. At night, use a natural and gentle cleanser to remove the grime from your day. Always be gentle, especially around the eye area.

6 – MOISTURISE, Keep wrinkles at bay by investing in a quality moisturising product made of natural ingredients. This will feed your skin from the outside, and keep it soft.

7 – PROTECT. Buy a moisturiser that contains an SPF of 15 or higher in order to protect your skin from the sun’s rays. Alternatively wear a sunscreen, but try to find one that uses mostly natural ingredients and that is kind to your skin.
8 – DE-STRESS. Smile and be happy. It is often said that the face uses more muscles to frown than it does to smile. Have a really good laugh, have regular breaks from your work, treat yourself to an indian head massage … there are many ways to de-stress and keep the worry lines at bay.


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Public Speaking Tips

Ensure your speech will be captivating to your audience as well as worth their time and attention. Videotape your presentation and analyze it.
Emphasize your strong points during your presentation. Be solemn if your topic is serious. Present the desired image to your audience.
Appear relaxed, even if you feel nervous. Establish rapport with your audience. If a microphone is available, adjust and adapt your voice accordingly.
Master the use of presentation software such as PowerPoint well before your presentation. Persuade your audience effectively. Speak loudly and clearly. Sound confident. Maintain sincere eye contact with your audience.
If what you have prepared is obviously not getting across to your audience, change your strategy mid-stream if you are well prepared to do so. Allow yourself and your audience a little time to reflect and think.
Keep audience interested throughout your entire presentation. Remember that an interesting speech makes time fly, but a boring speech is always too long to endure even if the presentation time is the same.
Check out the location ahead of time to ensure seating arrangements for audience, whiteboard, blackboard, lighting, location of projection screen, sound system, etc. are suitable for your presentation.
Tell audience ahead of time that you will be giving out an outline of your presentation so that they will not waste time taking unnecessary notes during your presentation.

Here are just a few hints, public speaking tips and techniques to help you develop your skills and become far more effective as a public speaker.

Mistakes
Mistakes are all right. Recovering from mistakes makes you appear more human. Good recovery puts your audience at ease - they identify with you more.

How to use the public speaking environment
Try not to get stuck in one place. Use all the space that's available to you. Move around. One way to do this is to leave your notes in one place and move to another. If your space is confined (say a meeting room or even presenting at a table) use stronger body language to convey your message.

Tell stories
Stories make you a real person not just a deliverer of information. Use personal experiences to bring your material to life. No matter how dry your material is, you can always find a way to humanise it.

Technology
Speak to your audience not your slides. Your slides are there to support you not the other way around. Ideally, slides should be graphics and not words (people read faster than they hear and will be impatient for you to get to the next point). If all the technology on offer fails, it's still you they've come to hear.

Humour
Tell jokes if you're good at telling jokes. If you aren't good, best to leave the jokes behind. There's nothing worse than a punch line that has no punch. Gentle humour is good in place of jokes. Self-deprecation is good, but try not to lay it on too thick.

You can learn to enjoy public speaking and become far more effective at standing in front of a group of people and delivering a potent message. And remember to keep practicing!

@ jst

Natural Teeth Whiteners

Natural Teeth Whiteners- Here are 2 solutions, try them both and see which one you like best. Most people have heard that baking soda and peroxide work, well it does. Here is the recipe for :

Solution#1: Mix on teaspoon of baking soda on a plate and add a few drops of hydrogen peroxide to make a paste, now scoop it off the plate with your toothbrush and use on your teeth. Rinse thoroughly and do not swallow!

Solution#2: Mash 1 ripe strawberry into a pulp and mix with ½ teaspoon of baking POWDER, not soda. Using your toothbrush you can brush with this for 1 minute and let sit on your teeth for 5 minutes. The malic acid in the strawberries acts as an astringent which causes stains to loosen and be removed. The baking powder breaks into small particles to reach deeper stains on teeth. You can use either of these once per week.

Another tip for whiter teeth is to avoid cola's like coke, pepsi, dark-colored juices especially those with artificial coloring as well as tobacco products and coffee/tea. In addition do brush 4 times per day, bring a toothbrush to work if you have to.

Deep-Clean Oily Skin- A natural antiseptic and antibacterial ingredient, honey can be just the trick for your oily or blemished skin. Twice a day you'll want to use 1-2 tablespoons of honey and warm it either by rubbing in your own hands or by placing in the microwave for 10 seconds to soften it. Massage it onto clean, damp skin using a pressing and releasing technique. Rinse well with warm water and pat your face dry.

Relieve Itchy Skin- Add 2-3 cups of quick cooking oats to your bathtub of hot water. Let is settle and stew in the water for a bit. When you are bathing, pick up handfuls of the oats and cover the itchy areas. You'll need to shower with clean water when you are done, but do not use soap. This little recipe is great for adults as well as a child with chicken pox or poison ivy.

Moisturizing dry hands & cuticles-Create a mix for your hands of one tablespoon of olive oil and 1 teaspoon sea salt (sugar if you don't have salt). Once the mix is created wet your hands and quickly pat dry so still damp. Now pour the mix on the palms and tops of your hands to be sure to cover the cuticles and nails also. Keep rubbing this mixture for 1 minute. Now sit for 10 minutes and let the olive oil soak in. Now rinse your hands with lukewarm water and a gritty soap if you have it to cut the grease. You might have to wash a couple times with soap to remove. Once clean, pat dry and coat your hands and nails in some of your best rich hand cream. This replaces the need for such an exfoliating scrub like Sally Hansen. The oil moisturizes while the sea salt scrubs away dead skin to reveal new healthy skin. Do the same with your feet. I always do this before I begin painting my nails for an at-home manicure or pedicure.

Want to lighten your hair?-When spring and summer hit most people head to the salon and get themselves some highlights for that sun-kissed look. Highlights are great but the chemicals over time can cause hair to become dry and can be quite expensive. I know that most people that try sun-in spray from the drugstore usually go orange, especially if you are blond to begin with. If you aren't looking for a major contrast in color but just a simple lightening, try lemon juice. Use a spray bottle with ¾ lemon juice (freshly squeezed is best, but the store-bought will do) and ¼ water and coat your hair by spraying all over the top. The sun has to process this to work, so you'll have to sit outside in the sun. If you don't like to tan, cover yourself up and hold a towel over your face. After about an hour you can wash it all out with shampoo. You'll notice lighter, shinier hair. This won't be a dramatic difference but will do the trick.


Karla Davis is a Certified Personal Trainer who has spent over 4 years focusing on Nutrition and Health.
Karla Davis Florida Home Staging & Redesign Professional Home Stager P.O. Box 684 Goldenrod, FL 32733
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Be The Perfect Boyfriend

By Anamika A Gupte

Ever wondered why some guys know to treat their woman the right way....Well, the following tips will surely make you the perfect boyfriend. There is a little dreamer hiding in every one of us! Yes, some might deny this fact but we do dream of having the perfect boyfriend. The one that would make us feel so special that we would dearly indulge in his love and affection. But here are some tips for guys to become the perfect boyfriend.

Give her butterflies in the beginning - Try rushing from her back and give her small and frequent kisses on her neck, or keep holding her until she finishes cutting the vegetables. If you wish to keep her happy, adore her and give her small remembrance moments that would remind her of you even when you're not around.

Make her laugh - Women love to laugh a lot. The best way to keep her happy is make her laugh a lot. She will enjoy every moment with you.

Show her affection in tender ways - Women love to feel pampered. We are aware of your tricks when you try giving us a backrub and slowly sneak your hands somewhere else. Try giving your woman a plain backrub instead or a warm oil massage. She will adore you.

Go out with her friends and play the role of token adorable guy - The key to become a perfect boyfriend is to be a perfect man in public life too. If in case you are hanging out with your girlfriend's friends, try to show some affection with a peck on her cheek or holding her hand or letting her lean on your shoulder. She will love it.

Agree to share when you order food - Guys might think that women are total clean freaks, well you are wrong again. Women love to share food that men eat and vice versa. From now onwards, let your French fries fill her up too.

Give her cards with stuff written in them - Women love cards when you write something in personal handwriting. May it be a small poem or just a "Missing You" note? She will fall for you.

Make her trust you completely - The best way to move about in a relationship is to analyze the woman you date and tell her your secrets. She will surely understand and trust you as you might disclose some of the most embarrassing moments.




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5 Lessons The Way We Treat People

1st - Cleaning Lady...

During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one: "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?" Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name?

I handed in my paper, leaving the last question

blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. "Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello." I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.

2nd - Pickup in the Rain...

One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabamahighway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 60s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab. She seemed t o be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attachedÂ... It read: "Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed awayÂ... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others." Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.

3rd - Always Remember those who Serve...

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked. "Fifty cents," replied the waitress. The little boy pulled is hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. "Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. "Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied. The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies.. You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.

4th - The Obstacle in Our Path...

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand! Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.

5th - Giving When it Counts...

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare &serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes I'll do it if it will save her." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away". Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.

"Work like you don't need the money,
love like you've never been hurt, and
dance like you do when nobody's watching."

Nothing is Impossible in this World

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that they are difficult. The word ‘impossible ‘itself spells, ‘I’ am possible Napoleon Bonaparte once remarked that the word impossible is found only in the dictionary of fools.
Believe that you are the architect of your destiny. Activate your positive thinking stretch your imagination. Think bigger than you feel comfortable.
Always accepts challenges. In this world, everything is possible on the basis of determination, dedication, hard work, devotion and positive thinking. You want success then you should seek opportunities and accept challenges.
We should not only be energetic but also zealous. You should select one aim and dedicate yourself to that aim. We should work hard with honesty. You should believe in yourselves. You should be self confident and never loose yourself confident.
Never bother about the results, keep on going even if the pace is slow you are bound to face obstacles in the way of success, but with courage and perseverance you can master them.
Your positive attitude and clear frame of mind determine your future. Never leave till tomorrow which you can do today.
Planning is essential if you want success in your life. First of all you should plan course of action. Start your work the day you have decided don’t put it off. Remember the proverb procrastination is the killer of time. Sticks to your plan don’t change your plan along the way. Never give it less than your best.
To gather the fruit, to register victory, to score success, you require unwavering faith in yourself.
Faith works like miracles. It looks beyond all boundaries, transcends all limitations, conquers goal. Therefore, have faith take courage and march ahead, onward and upward, till you attain the goal ---from :Saraswati

--Never forget to P U S H ; Pray Until Something Happen

9 Best Diet Tips Ever

1: Drink plenty of water or other calorie-free beverages. Before you tear into that bag of potato chips, drink a glass of water first. People sometimes confuse thirst with hunger, so you can end up eating extra calories when an ice-cold glass of water is really all you needed. If plain water doesn't cut it, try drinking flavored sparkling water or brewing a cup of fruit-infused herbal tea.
2: Be choosy about nighttime snacks. Mindless eating occurs most frequently after dinner, when you finally sit down and relax. Snacking in front of the TV is one of the easiest ways to throw your diet off course. Either close down the kitchen after a certain hour, or allow yourself a low-calorie snack, like a 100-calorie pack of cookies or a half-cup scoop of low-fat ice cream.
3: Enjoy your favorite foods. Instead of cutting out your favorite foods altogether, be a slim shopper. Buy one fresh bakery cookie instead of a box, or a small portion of candy from the bulk bins instead of a whole bag. You can still enjoy your favorite foods — the key is moderation.
4: Eat several mini-meals during the day. If you eat fewer calories than you burn, you'll lose weight. But when you're hungry all the time, eating fewer calories can be a challenge. "Studies show people who eat 4-5 meals or snacks per day are better able to control their appetite and weight," says obesity researcher Rebecca Reeves, DrPH, RD. She recommends dividing your daily calories into smaller meals or snacks and enjoying most of them earlier in the day — dinner should be the last time you eat.
5: Eat protein at every meal. Protein is the ultimate fill-me-up food — it's more satisfying than carbs or fats and keeps you feeling full for longer. It also helps preserve muscle mass and encourages fat burning. So be sure to incorporate healthy proteins like lean meat, yogurt, cheese, nuts, or beans into your meals and snacks.
6: Spice it up. Add spices or chiles to your food for a flavor boost that can help you feel satisfied. "Food that is loaded with flavor will stimulate your taste buds and be more satisfying, so you won't eat as much," says American Dietetic Association spokeswoman Malena Perdomo, RD. When you need something sweet, suck on a red-hot fireball candy. It's sweet, spicy, and low in calories.
7: Stock your kitchen with healthy convenience foods. Having ready-to-eat snacks and meals-in-minutes on hand sets you up for success. You'll be less likely to hit the drive-through or call in a pizza order if you can throw together a healthy meal in five or 10 minutes. Here are some essentials to keep on hand: frozen vegetables, whole-grain pasta, reduced-fat cheese, canned tomatoes, canned beans, pre-cooked grilled chicken breast, whole grain tortillas or pitas, and bags of salad greens.
8: Order children's portions at restaurants. Ordering a child-size entree is a great way to cut calories and keep your portions reasonable. This has become such a popular trend that most servers won't bat an eye when you order off the kids' menu. Another trick is to use smaller plates. This helps the portions look like more, and if your mind is satisfied, your stomach likely will be, too
9: Swap a cup of pasta for a cup of vegetables. Simply by eating less pasta or bread and more veggies, you could lose a dress or pants size in a year. "You can save from 100-200 calories if you reduce the portion of starch on your plate and increase the amount of vegetables," says Cynthia Sass, RD, a spokeswoman for the American Dietetic Association.


Reviewed by Brunilda Nazario, MD on Nov. '07

12 tips on How to Have a Great Conversation with Anyone

The art of conversation takes practice, and is not as hard as you might think. It will take some knowledge, practice, and patience, and you can learn to relax and enjoy a great conversation. With these tips you will be well on your way to having a good, meaningful and entertaining conversation with anyone!

1.) Make a good first impression. Smile, ask questions that require more than a yes/no answer, and really listen. Maintain eye contact and keep as friendly and polite as possible.
2.) Listen. This is the most important part of any conversation. You might think a conversation is all about talking, but it will not go anywhere if the listener is too busy thinking of something to say next. Pay attention to what is being said. When you talk to the other person, injecting a thought or two, they will often not realize that it was they who did most of the talking, and you get the credit for being a good conversationalist - which of course, you are!
3.) Find out what the other person is interested in. You can even do some research in advance when you know you will have an opportunity to talk with a specific person. Complimenting them is a great place to start. Everyone likes sincere compliments, and that can be a great ice-breaker.
4.) Ask questions. What do they like to do? What sort of things have they done in their life? What is happening to them now? What did they do today or last weekend? Identify things about them that you might be interested in hearing about, and politely ask questions. Remember, there was a reason that you wanted to talk to them, so obviously there was something about them that you found interesting.
5.) Forget yourself. Dale Carnegie once said, “It’s much easier to become interested in others than it is to convince them to be interested in you.” If you are too busy thinking about yourself, what you look like, or what the other person might be thinking, you will never be able to relax. Introduce yourself, shake hands, then forget yourself and focus on them instead.
6.) Practice active listening skills. Part of listening is letting the other person know that you are listening. Make eye contact. Nod. Say “Yes,” “I see,” “That’s interesting,” or something similar to give them clues that you are paying attention and not thinking about something else - such as what you are going to say next.
7.) Ask clarifying questions. If the topic seems to be one they are interested in, ask them to clarify what they think or feel about it. If they are talking about an occupation or activity you do not understand, take the opportunity to learn from them. Everyone loves having a chance to teach another willing and interested person about their hobby or subject of expertise.
8.) Paraphrase back what you have heard, using your own words. This seems like an easy skill to learn, but takes some practice to master. Conversation happens in turns, each person taking a turn to listen and a turn to speak or to respond. It shows respect for the other person when you use your “speaking turn” to show you have been listening and not just to say something new. They then have a chance to correct your understanding, affirm it, or embellish on it.
9.) Consider your response before disagreeing. If the point was not important, ignore it rather than risk appearing argumentative. If you consider it important then politely point out your difference of opinion. Do not disagree merely to set yourself apart, but remember these points: It is the differences in people–and their conversation–that make them interesting. Agreeing with everything can kill a conversation just as easily as disagreeing with everything. A person is interesting when they are different from you; a person is obnoxious when they can not agree with anything you say, or if they use the point to make themselves appear superior. Try to omit the word “but” from your conversation when disagreeing as this word often puts people on the defensive. Instead, try substituting the word “and”, it has less of an antagonistic effect.
10.) Consider playing devil’s advocate - which requires care. If your conversation partner makes a point, you can keep the conversation going by bringing up the opposite point of view (introduce it with something like “I agree, and…”). If you overuse this technique, however, you could end up appearing disagreeable or even hostile.
11.) Do not panic over lulls. This is a point where you could easily inject your thoughts into the discussion. If the topic seems to have run out, use the pause to think for a moment and identify another conversation topic or question to ask them. Did something they said remind you of something else you have heard, something that happened to you, or bring up a question or topic in your mind? Mention it and you’ll transition smoothly into further conversation!
12.) Know when the conversation is over. Even the best conversations will eventually run out of steam or be ended by an interruption. Shake hands with the other person and be sure to tell them you enjoyed talking with them. Ending on a positive note will leave a good impression and likely bring them back later for more!

Warnings:
Choose carefully when asking personal questions. You do not want to venture into overly personal issues. Even if the other person might be willing to talk about it, you may end up learning things that you really do not want to know. You certainly do not want the other person to think afterward that you coerced them into revealing personal information.
Be sincere! Compliments are great, but too much flattery is obvious and will reveal you as being insincere.
Beware of topics that can be inflammatory - such as religion and politics - and don’t venture into them unless you know the person has roughly the same convictions as you, or the circumstances otherwise allow for pleasant discussion. Again, it’s fine to disagree and can be nice to talk about differences, but it can also be a quick step toward an argument.
Try not to argue! You do not have to agree with everything someone says, but you do not have to tell them all about how you disagree. If you feel the need to explain an opposing viewpoint, express it simply and without putting the other person on the defensive. It is better to simply change the subject in a casual conversation than to get involved in an argument.
Try not to nod or respond with “Yes” and “I see” so much. It might make the person think you are bored and sometimes it may seem like you are rushing them along. Never say anything hurtful or offensive to the other person, this may project a bad feeling between you.
If it is a planned conversation, try listening to the news in case you run out of thing to say, it is always a good solution. Also try not to cut the person off mid-sentence. It seems disrespectful and it makes it seem like what you have to say is more important than what the other person has to say. Let the person finish their thoughts and then continue on with thoughts of your own.

Be The Perfect Girlfriend

By Anamika A Gupte

Ever wondered as what would make your man feel special? You might have tried getting him the best of what he can have, but still, does your relationship feel likes its not happening enough? You are at the right place and on the right page as how you can prove to be the perfect girlfriend for the man of your life.

Cook him a chef's special
It is said very fairly that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Try to prepare something with a little effort. Make sure you set the table right, with candles and aromatic senses in the dining room. The moment he returns back from work and sees all the pains you have taken to make him a special dinner, all he will do is rush up to you and kiss you. Believe it or not, this works.

Buy him something
Well we don't ask you to buy a Lamborghini or an estate. Small gifts work miracles. Pamper him by sending him some flowers while he's at work or knit him a sweater for winter. Take notice of the fact that you should personalize everything you buy for him. He will love to own them.

Ask for his help
On weekends, if you have planned to stay back home and your man does not have any other plan; ask for his help in the kitchen while cooking or in the garden. You can even ask him to fix something if broken and he will happily do it for you.

Get together for activities
You shall share all your favorites pass times that you love to do as well as ask him about them. Suppose he likes mountaineering, trekking or surfing, try indulging in those activities along with him. But make sure that he reciprocates and does the same while you plan to do your favorite pass times.

Know his likes and dislikes
Every one of us is choosy about the way we like to lead our lives. It is important for you to know and understand the likes and dislikes of your man. Avoid doing those actions which will annoy him. But if you really need to do them yourself, better ask for his opinion. This will make him feel that you care for his emotions.

Embrace him
It is a typical tendency of men that whenever they are annoyed or had a bad day; they never tend to speak up like women always do. In a situation like this, if your man asks to leave him alone, better do so or rather give him a warm tight hug and leave the room. He will come back to you once he had thought of the proper solution.

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7 Ways To Save A Relationship

Having rough times in your relationship? Everyone have these periods but don't think breaking up just because some small issues because there are many ways to save a relationship and I will point some of them.

1.Communication: The most important way to save a relationship is communication. You must talk with your partner, because communication is the thing that builds, improves or destroy a relationship. You can solve all the problems that you have in your relationship if you just communicate.

2.Forgiveness: Forgive the mistakes of your partner because we all make mistakes and you could make a wrong step too. You mustn't break up just because one mistake of your partner.

3.Trust: In every relationship, marriage, friendship, trust is the most important quality. If you want your partner to trust you, you must trust him too.

4.Show Your Feelings: If you want a serious relationship then you must show your partner that you care about him, that you love him.

5.Give Gifts: Even a flower can make your girlfriend love you more. In case you have a boyfriend, then I think a RC car or some collectibles will make him like a little boy.

6.Be Honest: You mustn't lie. If you really want a serious relationship and a long one, then you will shorten the life of your relationship. Why lie? I personally don't lie and I feel very good.The truth is better then a short time lie.

7.Sharing Your Problems: Share your problems with your partner. Try to open your soul in front of your partner because this will make your relationship stronger and it's the base of a solid relationship.

These are just a few ways to save a relationship, but all of them are efficient and if you use them you will have a strong and long relationship and you will save your relationship.

How to Whiten yellow nails

How to Whiten yellow nails-If you have a problem with stained nails the first thing I'd recommend is to take the polish off and keep it that way for as long as you can, at least a month. This is the number one cause of yellowing nails. Secondly scrub your nails with toothpaste. This will remove some staining and help add a shine to the nails. Next, Take one tablespoon of lemon juice(natural bleaching agent) and the same of baking powder and mix together well to form a paste. Apply a small dot of the paste to the center of each fingernail. With the help of a buffer you'll want to gently buff each nail, don't overdo it by buffing too much. Now you can wash your hands again and pat dry. Massage a rich hand cream into the hands and nails. After doing this once per week you can get ready for polish. I'd start with a clear hardener or strengthener. Dark polishes are the worst for creating staining. If you must use a dark polish ALWAYS use a basecoat so it doesn't seep into the nail.

Hair Moisturizing Mask-Use eggs. If you are like me and make egg whites for breakfast, save the yolks instead of throwing them away. The protein in them will help strengthen your hair and moisturize it. Mix up 2 whole eggs whipped, 1 tablespoon of olive oil and 1 of lime juice(lime juice optional-perks up curly hair). Leave on your hair for 20-30 minutes and tuck under a plastic shower cap. Add heat for better penetration such as a hairdryer or a heating pad and hot towel over the shower cap. Finish by shampooing hair twice and rinsing thoroughly.

Fixing Foot Odor-Baking soda is a gentle alkaline powder that will neutralize odor-causing acids by restoring your skin's pH level. Once a week create a relaxing food bath by adding ½ cup of baking soda to about 2 Gallons of water in your tub. Soak your feet for about 10-15 minutes. As you are draining the water, put a couple drops of peppermint or rosemary oil on each foot. This will create better circulation in the feet and a minty zing. Finish by rinsing feet, pat them dry and then ensure you use a lotion or foot cream to keep feet well moisturized.

Got the Flu?- One of the most useful tips is to get out the hydrogen peroxide and place a clean cotton swab in the bottle. Use both ends of the swab and stick one into each ear every hour. This works to speed up the healing and recovery process of the flu. My husband just tried this again this week and it works!

Recipe for Soft Skin & Prevent Yeast Infections-Add 1/4 Cup of Apple Cider Vinegar to a bath instead of bubble bath. It will soften your skin and protect from getting yeast infections, unlike soaps that are often the cause of yeast infections.



Karla Davis is a Certified Personal Trainer who has spent over 4 years focusing on Nutrition and Health. She also specializes in Staging and Organizing homes and office spaces as a Professional Organizer and is also a Public Speaker. Karla has over 10 years of experience and success within inside/outside Sales and Marketing, and is the wife of Author, Paul Davis. Karla too is now writing her own books as her life mission is to positively transform the homes and lives of everyone she meets.

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Working for God

“I glorified you on earth by accomplishing the work that you gave me to do.” – John 17:4

Gaby Brimmer, is a severely handicapped woman who is deeply admired in Mexico. Stricken with cerebral palsy, she cannot speak, walk or move her hands. The only functional limb in her body is her left foot. But her impairment did not become a hurdle in honing her talent as a writer. With the support and assistance of her loving parents, she learned to type using her big toe and earned the right to attend a regular school to pursue her interest in writing. On January 2, 2000, Gaby passed away and left an endearing legacy for the disabled like her. In her honor, the Mexican president granted scholarships to artists and writers with handicaps. God gifted each of us with unique talents and abilities to improve our quality of life, and there is no excuse for not fully utilizing our potentials. But many of us easily give up when confronted with setbacks in life. Gaby showed that by confronting our limitations and accepting them, we can continue to grow. God is not concerned about how much we have accomplished but how much of ourselves are we willing to give. -Jane

REFLECTION: Is it possible that we have trouble finishing things because we do not pursue what God has called us to do?

Thank You, Father, for the talent You have entrusted to me. May I use it well to give You glory. Amen.

by: www.kerygmafamily.com

Homemade Hair Dyes

Made from such products, homemade hair dye can be used to produce everything from bright yellow to deep red or blue, without the unpleasant effects of typical hair dye chemicals.
Commercial hair dyes may make coloring your hair easy, but at a price. They can be harsh on the hair, leaving it damaged and brittle. There are many common household ingredients that can be used to create homemade hair dye solutions. You probably have some of them in your pantry right now. The ingredients you use will depend on the color you want to achieve. There are many different products that can be used to color your hair. Many of these items are probably in your kitchen right now. For example, you can use food coloring or powdered drink mix to color your hair temporarily.

To try and remove hair dye stains, simply rub toothpaste, preferably the kind that contains scrubbing granules, on the area. If your goal is to cover grey hairs, try making a mixture of rosemary and sage. Mix the ingredients in water and allow them to simmer for about a half hour. Once it has simmered, remove the pan from the heat and allow the mixture to steep for a few hours. Apply to the hair and let it dry completely. Then wash and rinse your hair with your normal shampoo. When it has dried, you will see the results.

Another homemade hair dye can be created using walnut husks and water. To have this dye, merely boil the husks in water for about 15 minutes. After boiling, stress the mix and take the liquid to distort your hair. This homemade hair dye is better for making brown hair darker. Kool-Aid beverage mixture is a favorite favourite for making homemade hair dye in shameful colors. Another manner to wrap gray is to take walnut husks. This component works better for brown hair. Mix and simmer on the stove for a half minute. Allow the mix to precipitous for a minute or then until chilly. Apply the tone to the hair and permit it to dry. Then wash the tone from the hair. People with susceptible rind who need to withdraw hair dye stains should put in a professional hair dye remover. They can be establish in beauty supply stores or bought immediately from a hair salon.

Dishwashing soap can effectively remove hair dye stains, especially when mixed with either baking soda or lemon juice. Simply rub over the area until the stains fade. If you want to be a red head, consider using kool aid for your homemade hair dye. This gives a very vibrant shade of red, depending on how it is done. Mix the powder with a little water and apply to the hair. Allow the mixture to sit on the hair. The timing will depend on how bright you want the color. You can reapply this mixture if you want the red to be a darker shade. There are tons of homemade hair dye recipes to be found on the Internet. A simple search can yield thousands of interesting ideas. Keep in mind that some recipes are meant to enhance your natural hair color or cover grey hair, while others are meant to provide a completely different look.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Juliet Cohen writes articles for http://www.beauty-makeup-advice.com/, http://www.makeup-care.info/ and http://www.hairstylesphoto.com/ .

14 Things Women Do that Men Hate

I was speaking with a group of friends about relationships one day and decided to ask them about the things that both sexes do that are loved or hated by the other. This is a compilation of the things they said...
1 - Move the boundaries When you make an agreement, women often either don't stick to them or say that they feel differently about the situation and they want to renegotiate.
2 - They generally do not express what is on their minds unless prompted. Why can't she just say she's sad when she is and say she has issues with some thing when she does.
3 - They generally understand guys but disagree with the way that they are so either try to change them or just do not accommodate them.
4 - Comparing their mate to another man in an unfavourable light. The only time it may work is if the man being used for comparison is a role model to their mate.
5 - Wanting to turn the man into a lady by demanding certain kinds of actions. He is not a woman!
6 - Demeaning his interests and hobbies Some ladies belittle their husbands interests and actively try to wean them from them (for instance football), while simultaneously trying to get the man to take a deep interest in their hobbies and also participate. The end message that is often communicated is "I don't care about your interests but you had better care about mine if you love me".
7 - Slob culture from the lady - just generally unclean or untidy. Most men like a woman who can manage her environment.
8 - Discussing the man with her friends.
9 - Nagging.
10 - Listening with a vacant shut-up-so-I-can-talk-too expression. Many men are put off by a girl who carries that kind of expression while they are talking. Men do not always share their feelings in the way that ladies expect, so when he talks about something that is important to him and she interrupts to raise a subject that is not relevant to the matter at hand, it may generate cracks.
11 - A lady not recognising that in a conversation, men are solution oriented rather than conversation oriented. Don't get irritated because he doesn't want a 3-hour talk when he can see a quick solution.
12 - Spend all day looking in the mirror - and still not look any different!
13 - Getting paranoid about the way they look If he didn't like the way she looks, he wouldn't be with her.
14 - Insecurity when out together Men don't like women saying things like "you fancy her" and "she's far better looking than me". Stop saying it. It irritates them to bits. Ladies are we really committing these relationship no-nos and driving our men bonkers?
If you find yourself doing any of the things above, give yourself a smart rap on the knuckles. Hopefully the pain will bring you back to order.

Valentina Ibeachum has been counselling pre-wed and married couples for several years. She helps them prevent and resolve relationship problems by providing effective guidelines for building strong relationships. For FREE advice, visit RelationshipWrks.

5 Tips To Attract Good Men

One of the hardest parts of dating is not only finding available men, but also finding the right men for you. Most of us have suffered through at least one relationship we regret, and we don’t want to waste our time with dealing with partners who are never going to develop into a lasting relationship. But what can you do to attract the right man? A lot of it comes down to the way you approach dating in general. Here are some strategies you can use to help weed out the undesirables.

Know What You Want

It is very important to have a clear concept of what you want in a guy before adjusting your dating habits. Think about the things you like to do and what expectations you have of your men. Do you like a guy who provides constant attention, or do you like someone who gives you a little space? This is just one example of the things you should be asking yourself.

Present Yourself Accurately

One key to attracting a man with similar passions and interest is by simply being yourself. It is amazing how many people try to make false impressions about their career, education, or hobbies just to impress someone. While this may work initially, the other person will eventually discover the untruths and this will likely end the relationship. Thus, it is much better to be honest from the start.

Be Unique

Remember that the best men are being sought after by other women as well, so distinguishing yourself from the pack will help you gain an advantage. Don’t ever be ashamed of your hidden talents or pastimes. Sometimes people cover so much of their life up that they come across as shallow or boring. Be proud of what you can bring to a relationship and share it when appropriate. Ultimately, this will make you stand out from the crowd.

Go to the Men

Think about the places you frequent on an everyday basis. Are these the same spots you typically find good people? Stop wasting your time at bars and speed dating events. Instead, focus on places that represent your interests like church, volunteer events, and even the gym. You are much more likely to find a compatible man when you are doing the things you like to do anyway.

Never Settle

As frustrating as dating can be when you are on a cold streak, you should never feel pressured to settle for someone who doesn’t meet your expectations. Besides the fact that it is a waste of time, it could also hurt your chances to meet a better man. Of course it is acceptable to date new people and learn about them, but you also need to know when to let go. You don’t want to send the wrong message to potential suitors who see you with someone else.

Finding a good man could happen anywhere at any time, but there are things you can do to increase your chances. Start by knowing what you want and be proud of what makes you attractive and unique. From there you just need to put yourself in the right situations and distinguish yourself from the competition. Stay persistent and the right men will begin to notice.

About the author
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8 ways in Winning Back Trust

Trust, to me, is a simple matter. It boils down to a pure essence, one that smells nothing like a rat. Trust is being where you’re supposed to be, when you're supposed to be, doing what you said you would do. In that respect, trust is just a series of repeat visits that coincide with the expectations of the truster, such that the truster doesn't have to be breathing down the other guy's neck eight days a week.

Trust is difficult to gain, but much more easily lost and almost impossible to win back. It can be lost through no fault of your own, such as by miscommunication or by bad timing. Another way to lose it is by getting sloppy and letting the quality of your work slide. Then there's losing trust by intentional deceit, like when Whitey Bulger informed the Feds that Howie Winter was fixing horse races. Imagine Mr. Winter trying to forgive and forget after 10 years in the clink.

A breach of trust is so difficult to forgive because trust is so vital to daily operations, and lifelong partnerships rely on it. But winning back trust is possible with the following methods.

Act early

Once you realize that you have betrayed someone's trust, tell the person yourself before someone else does. Put your hat in your hand, step onto the carpet and pipe up. Put some sugar on it and act humble. If the person you betrayed gets angry, take the tirade with style and make it known that you are taking off the cloak and dagger out of loyalty. In other words, grovel with dignity.

Be persistent

At first, you will probably be rebuffed by the person you let down. Even if someone says, "You're dead to me now," don't give up right away. If you grew up Catholic like everyone in my neighborhood did, you'll be feeling plenty guilty about your sins. Put that guilt to work by acting penitent. Don't let the last word be spoken in the heat of the moment. Go away for a while, and then come back once the initial anger has worn down -- the edge will be smoother a few days later. Look at all these cafone celebrities, for example. They make asses of themselves, then a week later, I see them smiling on the morning news while I'm trying to enjoy my coffee.

If you want to work in this town again, own up to your mistake…

Don't make excuses

This is especially important when the problem arose from something beyond your control. Most people have to gamble at times and operate in what my banker calls "the float." The float is when your account doesn't quite have the money you need just yet, but a check is in the mail, and you go ahead and make another deal as if you were solvent. You lie because business sometimes requires it.

The same thing happens with deliveries and timing. Let's say the bagman arrives much too late with the dough. In the interim, you have to cover the vacuum of missing money using your mouth. Promise confidently to fulfill your original promise. Deals fall through from time to time -- it's a part of life -- but when you have to tell someone that you lied, at least do it with clarity and dignity.

Learn from your mistakes

One reason Al Capone lasted as long as he did is that he surrounded himself with ironclad people who understood the meaning of omerta. If you are cast out to the east of your Eden, don't plunge into self-reflection; rather, learn from your mistake. Let your pride down for a moment so that the lesson gets tattooed in your brain.

Parents tell their kids to learn from others’ mistakes, not from their own. But anyone who has lived beyond the age of 40 can assure you of one thing: Mistakes will be made no matter what your intentions, just like history will repeat itself. Therefore, knowing that life will never be perfect, you should swallow the lesson of what it feels like to lose someone's trust and don't do it again.

Change your behavior

The person you betrayed has no compelling reason to believe your plea unless you show that you have changed. If the problem started because you weren’t paying attention to detail, then become a stickler. Perhaps you were spending more time chasing the girls around the maypole than working, so get back on the bricks every day until your feet hurt.

After a certain age, it becomes difficult to change, but a dire situation requires a new way of thinking. Plenty of guys have checked into Alcoholics Anonymous because they have lost trust. If booze or drugs are the stumbling blocks impeding your progress, figure out how to get out of that cycle.

Fix the process

Policies, traditions and routines are often flawed and prone to failure. If the system you are working in doesn't have the harmony of the planets, take measures to rectify the irregular parts of your business. Make suggestions to your boss about how to avoid having the same thing happen again. Sometimes it's only one trucker who is late; sometimes it's the whole trucking company. Cut the contract, trim the fat or do whatever you must to restore confidence in your end of the business. Rather than passing the buck and finding a cause for your misfortune, rethink the process so that it doesn't happen again.

Start climbing that ladder back up to the top…

Start climbing again

Keep your nose to the grindstone and your feet moving. Falling down a few ranks doesn't have to break your mind. A demotion is not the end of the world unless you want to roll over, but that's what goomahs are for. Wake up in the morning and start setting the world on fire -- but not like Frank Notarantonio did.

get back up there

Regardless of how much remorse you feel or how willing you are to change, once people know about your temporary downfall, you will endure a period of sneers and jeers. So be it. In life, you might wash 10,000 windows, but people will only remember the one that you fell through. Self-doubt may eat at you, but if you work hard to prove yourself, the wisecracks will eventually stop. The betrayal will be forgotten by those knuckleheads, and the person you betrayed will begin to notice that you aren't such a deadbeat after all.

By : Mr. Mafioso
www.askmen.com

10 Benefits of Rising Early, and How to Do It

“Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise” - Ben Franklin, famously
“Put no trust in the benefits to accrue from early rising, as set forth by the infatuated Franklin …” - Mark Twain

1. Greet the day. I love being able to get up, and greet a wonderful new day. I suggest creating a morning ritual that includes saying thanks for your blessings. I’m inspired by the Dalai Lama, who said, ” Everyday, think as you wake up, ‘today I am fortunate to have woken up, I am alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others, to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings, I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others, I am going to benefit others as much as I can.’ “

2. Amazing start. I used to start my day by jumping out of bed, late as usual, and rushing to get myself and the kids ready, and rushing to drop them to school and come in to work late. I would walk into work, looking rumpled and barely awake, grumpy and behind everyone else. Not a great start to your day. Now, I have a renewing morning ritual, I’ve gotten so much done before 8 a.m., my kids are early and so am I, and by the time everyone else gets in to work, I’ve already gotten a head start. There is no better way to start off your day than to wake early, in my experience.

3. Quietude. No kids yelling, no babies crying, no soccer balls, no cars, no television noise. The early morning hours are so peaceful, so quiet. It’s my favorite time of day. I truly enjoy that time of peace, that time to myself, when I can think, when I can read, when I can breathe.

4. Sunrise. People who wake late miss one of the greatest feats of nature, repeated in full stereovision each and every day — the rise of the sun. I love how the day slowly gets brighter, when the midnight blue turns to lighter blue, when the brilliant colors start to seep into the sky, when nature is painted in incredible colors. I like doing my early morning run during this time, and I look up at the sky as I run and say to the world, “What a glorious day!” Really. I really do that. Corny, I know.

5. Breakfast. Rise early and you actually have time for breakfast. I’m told it’s one of the most important meals of the day. Without breakfast, your body is running on fumes until you are so hungry at lunchtime that you eat whatever unhealthy thing you can find. The fattier and sugarier, the betterier. But eat breakfast, and you are sated until later. Plus, eating breakfast while reading my book and drinking my coffee in the quiet of the morning is eminently more enjoyable than scarfing something down on the way to work, or at your desk.

6. Exercise. There are other times to exercise besides the early morning, of course, but I’ve found that while exercising right after work is also very enjoyable, it’s also liable to be canceled because of other things that come up. Morning exercise is virtually never canceled.

7. Productivity. Mornings, for me at least, are the most productive time of day. I like to do some writing in the morning, when there are no distractions, before I check my email or blog stats. I get so much more done by starting on my work in the morning. Then, when evening rolls around, I have no work that I need to do, and I can spend it with family.

8. Goal time. Got goals? Well, you should. And there’s no better time to review them and plan for them and do your goal tasks than first thing. You should have one goal that you want to accomplish this week. And every morning, you should decide what one thing you can do today to move yourself further towards that goal. And then, if possible, do that first thing in the morning.

9. Commute. No one likes rush-hour traffic, except for Big Oil. Commute early, and the traffic is much lighter, and you get to work faster, and thus save yourself more time. Or better yet, commute by bike. (Or even better yet, work from home.)

10. Appointments. It’s much easier to make those early appointments on time if you get up early. Showing up late for those appointments is a bad signal to the person you’re meeting. Showing up early will impress them. Plus, you get time to prepare.

How to Become an Early Riser

* Don’t make drastic changes. Start slowly, by waking just 15-30 minutes earlier than usual. Get used to this for a few days. Then cut back another 15 minutes. Do this gradually until you get to your goal time.
* Allow yourself to sleep earlier. You might be used to staying up late, perhaps watching TV or surfing the Internet. But if you continue this habit, while trying to get up earlier, sooner or later one is going to give. And if it is the early rising that gives, then you will crash and sleep late and have to start over. I suggest going to bed earlier, even if you don’t think you’ll sleep, and read while in bed. If you’re really tired, you just might fall asleep much sooner than you think.
* Put your alarm clock far from you bed. If it’s right next to your bed, you’ll shut it off or hit snooze. Never hit snooze. If it’s far from your bed, you have to get up out of bed to shut it off. By then, you’re up. Now you just have to stay up.
* Go out of the bedroom as soon as you shut off the alarm. Don’t allow yourself to rationalize going back to bed. Just force yourself to go out of the room. My habit is to stumble into the bathroom and go pee. By the time I’ve done that, and flushed the toilet and washed my hands and looked at my ugly mug in the mirror, I’m awake enough to face the day.
* Do not rationalize. If you allow your brain to talk you out of getting up early, you’ll never do it. Don’t make getting back in bed an option.
* Have a good reason. Set something to do early in the morning that’s important. This reason will motivate you to get up. I like to write in the morning, so that’s my reason. Also, when I’m done with that, I like to read all of your comments!
* Make waking up early a reward. Yes, it might seem at first that you’re forcing yourself to do something hard, but if you make it pleasurable, soon you will look forward to waking up early. A good reward is to make a hot cup of coffee or tea and read a book. Other rewards might be a tasty treat for breakfast (smoothies! yum!) or watching the sunrise, or meditating. Find something that’s pleasurable for you, and allow yourself to do it as part of your morning routine.
* Take advantage of all that extra time. Don’t wake up an hour or two early just to read your blogs, unless that’s a major goal of yours. Don’t wake up early and waste that extra time. Get a jump start on your day! I like to use that time to get a head start on preparing my kids’ lunches, on planning for the rest of the day (when I set my MITs), on exercising or meditating, and on reading. By the time 6:30 rolls around, I’ve done more than many people do the entire day.

Thanks to : Leo B. a free-lance writer
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Kitchen Beauty Aids

Unconditional Love

A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home from the war.
He called his parents from San Francisco.
'Mom and Dad, I'm coming home, but I've a favor to ask. I have a friend I'd
like to bring home with me.'
'Sure,' they replied, 'we'd love to meet him.'
'There's something you should know the son continued, 'he was hurt pretty
badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mine and lost an arm and a leg.
He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us.'
'I'm sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live.'
'No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us.'
'Son,' said the father, 'you don't know what you're asking. Someone with
such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to
live, and we can't let something like this interfere with our lives. I think
you should just come home and forget about this guy. He'll find a way to
live on his own.'
At that point, the son hung up the phone.
The parents heard nothing more from him.
A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco
police.
Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told.
The police believed it was suicide.
The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city
morgue to identify the body of their son.
They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they
didn't know, their son had only one arm and one leg.

The parents in this story are like many of us.
We find it easy to love those who are good-looking or fun to have around,
but we don't like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable.
We would rather stay away from people who aren't as healthy, beautiful, or
smart as we are.
Thankfully, there's someone who won't treat us that way.
Someone who loves us with an unconditional love that welcomes us into the
forever family, regardless of how messed up we are.

Tonight, before you tuck yourself in for the night, say a little prayer for
the strength you need to accept people as they are, and to help us all be
more understanding of those who are different from us!!!
There's a miracle called Friendship that dwells in the heart.
You don't know how it happens or when it gets started but you know the
special lift it always brings and you realize that Friendship is a most
precious gift!
Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed.
They make you smile and encourage you to succeed.
They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us.

My Friend ..!!

17 Timeless Secrets of Happy People

Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. Leo Tolstoy There are many ways for people to be unhappy, but happy people have common characteristics. That’s why a good way to be happy is to learn the common characteristics of happy people and apply them. Please wait while images are being loaded..... So I studied what the great minds in history say about being happy. I went through hundreds of quotes on being happy and extracted the best lessons out of them. Not only are these lessons useful, they are also timeless in nature. Here I’d like to share what I learned with you. Without further ado, here are 17 timeless secrets of happy people:
1. Forget the past
One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory. Rita Mae Brown
You won’t be happy if you carry the burden of the past. Did you make mistakes? Did you have terrible experiences? Whatever they are, you should let them go. There’s nothing you can do about the past, so you’d better let them go and focus your energy on the present.
2. Take responsibility for your life
The secret of Happiness is Freedom, and the secret of Freedom, Courage. Thucydides
To be happy you should have freedom and the most essential freedom is the freedom to choose. No matter how bad a situation is, you can always choose how you respond to it. People can annoy you, but it’s up to you whether or not you will resent. But, as the quote above says, freedom takes courage. Freedom to choose requires the courage to take responsibility for your life. You shouldn’t blame someone else when something goes wrong. Take the responsibility and you have the power to choose.
3. Build relationships
Life’s truest happiness is found in friendships we make along the way. Unknown Relationships is where we can get true happiness in life. The reason is simple: only through relationships can we love and be loved. Make relationships your top priority and you are on your way to true happiness.
4. Develop multiple passions
The more passions and desires one has, the more ways one has of being happy. Charlotte-Catherine
Passions lead you to happiness. So not only should you discover your multiple passions, you should also expand yourself to new passions. This way you will create new ways to happiness. The key to expanding to new passions is curiosity. If you are curious, you will have an endless stream of exciting things waiting for you.
5. Build your character
Character is the basis of happiness and happiness the sanction of character. George Santayana
Building your character is essential for happiness. When you are true to yourself and others, you will be in peace. The way to start building character is by making promises and keeping them. For example, you make promise to yourself that you won’t smoke. When you keep it, you are building your character. Or you make promise to others to be punctual. When you keep it, you build your character.
6. Be who you are
The summit of happiness is reached when a person is ready to be what he is. Desiderius Erasmus
You can only be happy if you become who you are. Don’t live other people’s life by trying to meet their expectations. People may expect you to have certain job or certain way of living but don’t be intimidated by them. Find who you are and be yourself.
7. Live your life purpose
The only true happiness comes from squandering ourselves for a purpose. William Cowper To have a fulfilling life, you should find your life purpose and follow it faithfully. Find what matters to you and build the courage to follow it. Having a one-liner will help you internalize and communicate your mission.
8. Count your blessings
Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have. Unknown
Being happy is easy if we are grateful. Unfortunately, seeing what we don’t have is often easier than seeing what we have. Sometimes we need to experience loss before appreciating what we have. So don’t take things for granted. Look at what you have and soon you will have plenty of reasons to be happy. You may start with these simple things.
9. Have positive mind
It is not the place, nor the condition, but the mind alone that can make anyone happy or miserable. Roger L’Estrange
Happy people know how to control their mind. They don’t let negative thoughts come in. While a situation may seem bad to others, happy people look at them in a positive way. They always believe that no matter how bad a situation seems, there is always something positive to take from it. Your mind can make or break you, so guard it well.
10. Work creatively
Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort. Franklin D. Roosevelt
When you work creatively on something you will find happiness. There is a well-known phenomenon regarding this called flow. When you are in the state of flow, you are fully focused on the task at hand that you no longer realize the passage of time. This state of flow allows you to achieve high productivity and being happy at the same time. Here are some tips to achieve it.
11. Start with what you have
The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet. James Oppenheim
Happy people don’t need something they don’t have to be happy. They don’t need certain job or certain level of income. Instead, they learn to be happy with what they already have. They have learned the art of contentment. Be content with what you have and you will be happy.
12. Change
They must often change who would be constant in happiness or wisdom. Confucius
Being happy requires you to constantly grow. In fact, the process of learning itself is essential for happiness. Have you ever felt the excitement of being enlightened about something? Have you ever felt the excitement of achieving a new level in life? Top 10 Things You Should Change in Your Life gives you some practical tips on changing your life.
13. Use your talents
True happiness involves the full use of one’s power and talents. Douglas Pagels
There are two lessons to take from this quote. First, you should find your talents and second, you should use them to the fullest. Working in your talents is a sure way to enjoy your work because it’s something you are “hardwired” to do. Using your talents fully will make you even happier because of the satisfaction of doing your best.
14. Beware of small things
The happiness of most people we know is not ruined by great catastrophes or fatal errors, but by the repetition of slowly destructive little things. Ernest Dimnet
This is very true. Often it’s not big things that ruin your happiness. It’s the small things that do. Perhaps you don’t like someone or break some “small” promises. But even small leaks can sink your ship of happiness, so beware of them.
15. Distill your ambitions
Where ambition ends happiness begins. Author Unknown
While wanting to achieve more in your life is good, being obsessed by it is not. Do your best to improve yourself but don’t be obsessed by it.
16. Make others happy
Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself. Ralph Waldo Emerson
This is my favorite secret of happiness. The way to being happy is to make others happy first. The more you help other people and make them happy, the more you will be happy. Happiness doesn’t come through selfishness but through selflessness. You reap what you sow.
17. Practice compassion
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. The Dalai Lama
Compassion is perhaps the highest level of selflessness we could have. As this quote aptly says, practicing compassion can make both others and you happy. But of course, it requires practice. Start with thinking about the people around you. Look at their needs and find ways to meet them. Even if you don’t do it out of compassion in the beginning, your compassion will grow over time.

Bananas

This is interesting. After Reading this, you'll never look at a banana in the same way again.
Bananas . Containing three natural sugars - sucrose, fructose and glucose combined with fiber, a banana gives an instant, sustained and substantial boost of energy. Research has proven that just two bananas provide enough energy for a strenuous 90-minute workout. No wonder the banana is the number one fruit with the world's leading athletes. But energy isn't the only way a banana can help us keep fit. It can also help overcome or prevent a substantial number of illnesses and conditions, making it a must to add to our daily diet.
Depression : According to a recent survey undertaken by MIND amongst people suffering from depression, many felt much better after eating a banana. This is because bananas contain tryptophan, a type of protein that the body converts into serotonin, known to make you relax, improve your mood and generally make you feel happier.
PMS : Forget the pills - eat a banana. The vitamin B6 it contains regulates blood glucose levels, which can affect your mood.
Anemia : High in iron, bananas can stimulate the production of hemoglobin in the blood and so helps in cases of anemia.
Blood Pressure : This unique tropical fruit is extremely high in potassium yet low in salt, making it the perfect to beat blood pressure. So much so, the US Food and Drug Administration has just allowed the banana industry to make official claims for the fruit's ability to reduce the risk of blood pressure and stroke
Brain Power : 200 students at a Twickenham (Middlesex) school were helped through their exams this year by eating bananas at breakfast, break, and lunch in a bid to boost their brain power. Research has shown that the potassium-packed fruit can assist learning by making pupils more alert.
Constipation : High in fiber, including bananas in the diet can help restore normal bowel action, helping to overcome the problem without resorting to laxatives.
Hangovers : One of the quickest ways of curing a hangover is to make a banana milkshake, sweetened with honey. The banana calms the stomach and, with the help of the honey, builds up depleted blood sugar levels,while the milk soothes and re-hydrates your system. Heartburn : Bananas have a natural antacid effect in the body, so if you suffer from heartburn, try eating a banana for soothing relief.
Morning Sickness : Snacking on bananas between meals helps to keep blood sugar levels up and avoid morning sickness.
Mosquito bites : Before reaching for the insect bite cream, try rubbing the affected area with the inside of a banana skin. Many people find it amazingly successful at reducing swelling and irritation.
Nerves : Bananas are high in B vitamins that help calm the nervous system. Overweight and at work? Studies at the Institute of Psychology in Austria found pressure at work leads to gorging on comfort food like chocolate and crisps. Looking at 5,000 hospital patients, researchers found the most obese were more likely to be in high-pressure jobs The report concluded that, to avoid panic-induced food cravings, we need to control our blood sugar levels by snacking on high carbohydrate foods every two hours to keep levels steady
Ulcers : The banana is used as the dietary food against intestinal disorders because of its soft texture and smoothness. It is the only raw fruit that can be eaten without distress in over-chronicler cases. It also neutralizes over-acidity and reduces irritation by coating the lining of the stomach.
Temperature control: Many other cultures see bananas as a "cooling" fruit that can lower both the physical and emotional temperature of expectant mothers. In Thailand , for example, pregnant women eat bananas to ensure their baby is born with a cool temperature.
Seasonal = Affective Disorder (SAD) : Bananas can help SAD sufferers because they contain the natural mood enhancer tryptophan.
Smoking: Bananas can also help people trying to give up smoking. The B6,B12 they contain, as well as the potassium and magnesium found in them, help the body recover from the effects of nicotine withdrawal.
Stress : Potassium is a vital mineral, which helps normalize the heartbeat, sends oxygen to the brain and regulates your body's water balance. When we are stressed, our metabolic rate rises, thereby reducing our potassium levels. These can be balanced with the help of a high-potassium banana snack.
Strokes : According to research in "The New England Journal of Medicine,"eating bananas as part of a regular diet can cut the risk of death by strokes by as much as 40%!
Warts: Those keen on natural alternatives swear that if you want to kill off a wart, take a piece of banana skin and place it on the wart, with the yellow side out. Carefully hold the skin in place with a plaster or surgical tape! So, a banana really is a natural remedy for many ills. When you compare it to an apple, it has four times the protein, twice the carbohydrate, three times the phosphorus, five times the vitamin A and iron, and twice the other vitamins and minerals. It is also rich in potassium and is one of the best value foods around. So maybe its time to change that well-known phrase so that we say, "A banana a day keeps the doctor away!"