LoVe StOrY

Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived:
Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others including Love. One
day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so all
repaired their boats and left.

Love wanted to persevere until the last possible moment. When the island
was almost sinking, Love decided to ask for help. Richness was passing by
Love in a grand boat. Love said, "Richness, can you take me with you?"
Richness answered, "No, I can't. There is a lot of gold and silver in my
boat. There is no place here for you."

Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel,
"Vanity, please help me!" "I can't help you Love. You are all wet and might
damage my boat." Vanity answered.

Sadness was close by so Love asked for help, "Sadness, let me go with you."
"Oh....Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself!"

Happiness passed by Love too, but he was so happy that she did not even
hear when Love called her!

Suddenly, there was a voice, "Come Love, I will take you." It was an elder.
Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that he even forgot to ask the elder his
name. When they arrived at dry land, the elder went his own way.

Love realizing how much he owed the elder and asked Knowledge, another
elder, "Who helped me?" "It was Time," Knowledge answered. "Time?" asked
Love. "But why did Time help me?"
Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and
answered,
"Because, only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is."

The Story of Soichiro Honda's Self-Confidence

Like most other countries, Japan was hit badly by the Great Depression of the 1930s. In 1938, Soichiro Honda was still in school, when he started a little workshop, developing the concept of the piston ring.

His plan was to sell the idea to Toyota. He labored night and day, even slept in the workshop, always believing he could perfect his design and produce a worthy product. He was married by now, and pawned his wife's jewelry for working capital.

Finally, came the day he completed his piston ring and was able to take a working sample to Toyota, only to be told that the rings did not meet their standards! Soichiro went back to school and suffered ridicule when the engineers laughed at his design.

He refused to give up. Rather than focus on his failure, he continued working towards his goal. Then, after two more years of struggle and redesign, he won a contract with Toyota.

By now, the Japanese government was gearing up for war! With the contract in hand, Soichiro Honda needed to build a factory to supply Toyota, but building materials were in short supply. Still he would not quit! He invented a new concrete-making process that enabled him to build the factory.

With the factory now built, he was ready for production, but the factory was bombed twice and steel became unavailable, too. Was this the end of the road for Honda?

NO!

He started collecting surplus gasoline cans discarded by US fighters – "Gifts from President Truman," he called them, which became the new raw materials for his rebuilt manufacturing process. Finally, an earthquake destroyed the factory.

After the war, an extreme gasoline shortage forced people to walk or use bicycles. Honda built a tiny engine and attached it to his bicycle. His neighbors wanted one, and although he tried, materials could not be found and he was unable to supply the demand.
Was he ready to give up now?

NO!

Soichiro Honda wrote to 18,000 bicycles shop owners and, in an inspiring letter, asked them to help him revitalize Japan. 5,000 responded and advanced him what little money they could to build his tiny bicycle engines. Unfortunately, the first models were too bulky to work well, so he continued to develop and adapt, until finally, the small engine 'The Super Cub' became a reality and was a success. With success in Japan, Honda began exporting his bicycle engines to Europe and America.

End of story? No! In the 1970s there was another gas shortage, this time in America and automotive fashion turned to small cars. Honda was quick to pick up on the trend. Experts now in small engine design, the company started making tiny cars, smaller than anyone had seen before, and rode another wave of success.

Today, Honda Corporation employs over 100,000 people in the USA and Japan, and is one of the world's largest automobile companies. Honda succeeded because one man made a truly committed decision, acted upon it, and made adjustments on a continuous basis. Failure was simply not considered a possibility.
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Seven types of guys women can't resist

Always wondered why some guys always manage to get the best of girls?

Well, the secret is not good looks or a well-defined six pack, but the fact that women simply get attracted to certain personality traits and flock to men who possess them.

Below are seven of these 'ideal types' of guys that women are drawn to, and an explanation as to why these guys are so appealing, reports Fox News.

The list could help you understand what women are looking for, and most importantly, to make sure that you fit the bill.

1. The Romantic Guy
He believes in classic romance. He is constantly bringing her flowers and chocolate and lighting candles during dinner. He calls her often to let her know he is thinking about her and looks into her eyes and tells her how he feels.
Why he is so irresistible: A woman loves to feel appreciated, and the romantic guy makes this happen. He uses romantic gestures to show her he is thinking about her. As an added bonus, she feels free to reciprocate and act on her own romantic tendencies.

2. The Confident Guy
He is totally secure and sure of himself. He is assertive in public and gives off an aura of power and control. In a relationship, he doesn't get jealous of other men; he doesn't feel threatened by his girlfriend's male friends or co-workers.
Why he is so irresistible: Women are attracted to confident men. Consider this: If you think you are great, she will probably be influenced to think the same. The confident man doesn't seek approval from women, and this makes them want him even more.

3. The Artistic Guy
The artistic guy is spontaneous and lives for the moment. Often, he will use his creativity to woo her, such as with a song he has written about her or a painting he has made for her.
Why he is so irresistible: Every woman wants to feel unique and special. There is no better way to make her feel this way than to use her as your muse or your source of inspiration. She is intrigued by the artistic guy's creative mind and especially by the way he incorporates her into his art.

4. The Foreign Guy
He comes from a faraway exotic country and he might have a cute accent or a unique way of seeing the world. His social customs and everyday behaviour can be a little quirky, but he always manages to come off as uniquely charming.
Why he is so irresistible: Women often choose this kind of guy if they are curious about the world, but most of the appeal comes down to a fascination with dating someone from another culture

5. The Free Spirit Guy (aka the Bad Boy)
The free spirit guy goes where the wind takes him -- and the wind usually takes him on some kind of wacky adventure. He might ride a motorcycle, or he might skip work to take her on a last-minute road trip, but this guy doesn't worry too much about the consequences -- he just sees where his own devices take him.
Why he is so irresistible: Every woman wants a bit of a rebel. She loves his carefree attitude and hopes that it will rub off on her too. The bad boy spirit adds an element of youthfulness to the relationship and she loves to try taming him, although she knows she'll never actually succeed

6. The Intelligent/Witty Guy
He instigates conversations that are intellectually stimulating and listens to what she has to say in response. He makes her laugh with his clever sense ofhumour and has an uncanny ability to make politics interesting. He can shoot the breeze with her for hours and it will never get boring.
Why he is so irresistible: An intellectual connection is a big part of what sustains a relationship and if you can show her that you've got that, she'll be hooked pretty quickly.

7. The Considerate Guy
He holds open her car door and pulls out her chair. He foots the bill for dinner and makes sure to offer her dessert. He always asks her out with reasonable notice and picks her up at her door. He is generally sensitive to how she is feeling and when she is ready to go home.
Why he is so irresistible: Once a woman has gone through her share of the bad guy, the rude guy and the not-calling-her-back guy, she will likely re-evaluate her priorities. It takes a bit of maturity on her part to realise this, but eventually most girls come around and realise that they want a guy who will treat them well in the long run.

But, think twice before copying any of the above character types, for women can know when you are faking it.

Is Crying Therapeutic After Break-Up ?

Shedding tears often eases our sense of shock or trauma after a painful breakup.

But why is the act so beneficial? And is there such a thing as a "bad cry"?

Psychologists Jonathan Rottenberg and Lauren M. Bylsma analysed more than 3,000 recent crying experiences (outside of lab) and found that the benefits of crying depend entirely on the what, where and when of a particular crying episode.

They found that the majority of respondents reported improvements in their mood following a bout of crying. However, a third of the participants reported no improvement in mood and a tenth felt worse after crying.

The survey also revealed that criers who received social support during their crying episode were the most likely to report improvements in mood.

Research to date has not always produced a clear picture of the benefits of crying , in part because the results often seem to depend on how crying is studied, said a Southern Florida release.

The authors note several challenges in accurately studying crying behaviour in a laboratory setting. Volunteers who cry in a lab setting often do not describe their experiences as being cathartic or making them feel better.

Rather, crying in a lab setting often results in the study participants feeling worse; this may be due to the stressful conditions of the study itself, such as being videotaped or watched by research assistants.

However, these lab studies have provided interesting findings about the physical effects of crying. Criers do show calming effects such as slower breathing, but they also experience a lot of unpleasant stress and arousal, including increased heart rate and sweating.

Research has shown that the effects of crying also depend on who is shedding the tears. For example, individuals with anxiety or mood disorders are least likely to experience the positive effects of crying.

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Home Made Remedies for Glowing Skin

Well people, are you fancy having a glowing skin and a bright complexion? If yes, then we will tell you that how can you make your complexion clean and clear as much as you can while staying at your home.

First of all, we tell you sugar mask with lemon peels. Take equal proportions of grained sugar and powered lemon peel, mix them with a bit of milk and make a fine paste, apply it on your face and when it dries wash off with fresh water.

If you apply it at least once in a week, it not only smoothes your skin but also adds shine and brightens your complexion.

Take one tomato and add 2-3 drops of lime juice. Apply on your face and wash off till dry after 15 to 20 minutes. You will see a slight shine in just one go. If you will do it twice in a week, you will definitely feel the difference.

Apply a paste of wheat flour with vinegar on your face with the very light and soft pat. Wash your face with fresh water when dries. It helps you to remove freckles and dark sports.Mix lime juice, honey and egg white, apply it on your face and let it dry for few minutes and then washout. It will make your skin soft and smooth.

Make a mixture of rose water, glycerin and lemon juice. Apply this lotion on your face, arms and even feet, especially before going to bed at night. Regular application of this lotion will surely give your face a beautiful glow.

You can simply use rose water as best toner, after cleansing, after removing your make up, before going to bed, or just to fresh your face.

Other then all these, cucumber mask also helps you to make your skin glowing and attractive.

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Love Life, Not Stuff

We’re in love with stuff — with shopping, with acquiring, with owning, with collecting.
Let’s lust after life instead.
Our obsession with stuff has become unhealthy. When we have a void in our lives, we buy things. When we have problems, we buy things. And these things are becoming more and more expensive, bigger, shinier … more wasteful.
This obsession with stuff leads to owning a lot, having a lot of clutter … and yet this stuff doesn’t fill our lives with meaning. It leads to deep debt, from buying so much, and needing bigger houses and storage spaces to contain everything. Financially, we’re worse off than ever, because of this obsession with stuff.
We buy things when we’re depressed, we buy things for others to show how much we love them … and in this way, stuff has separated us from actually dealing with our emotions, blocked us from truly connecting with others.
Let’s replace that lust for stuff with a lust for life.

Some ideas:

* Rediscover a passion for life. Get outside and feel nature, appreciate the beauty of the world around you. Get active, do some gardening or yardwork, play a sport, go for a walk, take a hike, go for a swim, ride a bike. Feel the life coursing through you. Breathe it in.

* Give experiences as gifts, not stuff. Instead of shopping for someone come birthdays or Christmas, think of an experience you can give them instead. A date with you, doing something fun, hanging out, cooking, playing, talking, exploring. A fun time at a park or beach. Something other than everyday. An experience is much more meaningful than an object.

* Connect with others. In real life. If you haven’t hung out with a friend recently, give him a call and go hang out. Get your kid away from the TV or video game player and take her outside to do something. Go on a date with your partner. Visit your mom or grandparents. And be present while you’re with them — really listen, really be there.

* Deal with your emotions. If you have a need to buy things, to shop when you are having emotional issues, be more aware of this. Then deal with the underlying emotions, rather than using shopping as a way to forget about them. If you’re depressed, or anxious, or lonely, deal with those. Find solutions, figure out what’s causing them. Good news: experiencing life, getting active, and connecting with others all help you deal with those emotional issues.

* Disconnect your attachment to stuff. Sometimes I find myself reluctant to give something up, even if I don’t really use it. And that’s when I ask myself, “Why?” What is holding me back from getting rid of this possession? Sometimes, the item has an emotional connection, but then I realize that it’s just an object, it’s not the emotion or the actual source of the emotion. Then I’ll take a picture of the item, upload it to my computer, and get rid of the object. I feel liberated, because I’ve broken an attachment to a physical object (but saved the memory). If you are attached to an object, figure out why — it’s not healthy in the long run.

* Realize that life, not stuff, is what matters. Objects are just objects — if you lose them, if they get stolen or destroyed … it’s not a big deal. They’re just objects — not your life. Your life is the series of moments that is steaming through your consciousness right now, and how you use those moments and what you fill them with is what truly matters, not what you fill your home with. At the end of this short journey, you’ll look back and remember your experiences, the people you loved and who loved you back, the things you did and didn’t do. Not the stuff you had. —
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How to Kill Your Excuses

We all make excuses.
But the successful ones are those who can kill the excuses like the miserable maggots they are.
I’m too tired.
I don’t have the time.
I don’t feel motivated.
I’d rather do nothing.
I don’t have the money, equipment, space.
I can’t because …
We’ve all made the excuses.

Here’s how to kill them

1. See the positive. Excuses are usually made because we don’t feel like doing something — we’re accentuating the negative. Instead, see the fun in something, the joy in it. And maintain a positive attitude, or you’ll never beat the excuses.

2. Take responsibility. Excuses are ways to get out of owning up to something. If we don’t have the time, money, equipment, etc., then it’s not our fault, right? Wrong. Take responsibility, and own the solution.

3. Find a solution. Just about every problem has a solution. Don’t have time? Start with just 5-10 minutes. Make the time. Wake earlier. Do it during lunch. Don’t have a gym membership? Workout at home or in the office. Don’t have the energy? Do it when you have higher levels of energy. You’re smart. Figure out the solution.

4. See your goal. This is your motivation — your reason for doing it. Sure, you could just lay on the couch, but if you think about why you really want to pursue a goal, you’ll be motivated. Visualize that goal and just get started.

5. Be accountable. Have a workout partner, a project partner, a team, someone to report to. If you have to meet a coach or partner, you’re more likely to do something.

6. Go ahead and make your excuses. Then do it anyway.





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written by Leo Babauta

Do Attractive Women Want It All ?

Although many researchers have believed women choose partners based on the kind of relationship they are seeking, a new study from The University of Texas at Austin reveals women's preferences can be influenced by their own attractiveness.

David Buss, psychology researcher at the university, has published the findings in "Attractive Women Want it All: Good Genes, Economic Investment, Parenting Proclivities and Emotional Commitment" in this month's Evolutionary Psychology.

Previous researchers argued that what women value depended on the type of relationship they were looking for.
Women looking for long-term partners want someone who will be a good provider for them and their children, but women seeking short-term flings care more about masculinity and physical attractiveness, features that may be passed down to children.

Buss and Todd Shackelford, psychology professor at Florida Atlantic University, found women ideally want partners who have all the characteristics they desire, but they will calibrate their standards based on their own desirability.

"When reviewing the qualities they desire in romantic partners, women gauge what they can get based on what they got," Buss said.
"And women who are considered physically attractive maintain high standards for prospective partners across a variety of characteristics."

The researchers identified four categories of characteristics women seek in a partner:

good genes, reflected in desirable physical traits, resources,
the desire to have children and good parenting skills,
and loyalty and devotion.

Most women attempt to secure the best combination of the qualities they desire from the same man, but the researchers said a small portion of women who do not find a partner with all the qualities may trade some characteristics for others.

Although women's selectivity across categories reflected how attractive they appeared to other people, the researchers found the characteristics men desired in a partner did not vary based on their own physical attractiveness.
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Inspiring Story !

The train has started moving. It is packed with people of all ages,
mostly with the working men and women and young college guys and
gals. Near the window, seated a old man with his 30 year old son. As
the train moves by, the son is overwhelmed with joy as he was
thrilled with the scenery outside..

" See dad, the scenery of green trees moving away is very
beautiful"

This behavior from a thirty year old son made the other people feel
strange about him. Every one started murmuring something or other
about this son."This guy seems to be crazy.." newly married Arnold
whispered to his wife.

Suddenly it started raining... Rain drops fell on the
travelers through the opened window. The Thirty year old son ,
filled with joy " see dad, how beautiful the rain is .."

Arnold's wife got irritated with the rain drops spoiling her new
pants.

Arnold ," cant you see its raining, you old man, if Ur son is not
feeling well get him soon to a mental asylum..and don't disturb public
henceforth"

The old man hesitated first and then in a low tone replied " we are
on the way back from hospital, my son got discharged today morning ,
he was a blind by birth, last week he got his vision, these rain
and nature are new to his eyes.. Please forgive us for the
inconvenience caused..."

The things we see may be right from our perspective until we know the
truth. But when we know the truth our reaction to that will hurt even
us. So try to understand the problem better before taking a harsh
action.
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Helping or Hurting ?

Helping or hurting? (giving positive energy)

Besides family, the only other people who share our joy and sorrow are our friends. Friends are there when you need them and always know what to say or do when you’re feeling blue. Similarly, when your friend needs you, you are always there to offer your love and compassion in times of need.

Giving and taking advice from a friend is something every human being does. But sometimes without even knowing it, you could be hurting your friend more than helping him or her.

If you need to be there for your friend, you should with everything you have. But at the same time don’t feed your friend’s insecurities and problems.

Just because you are there for someone, does not mean they have to stop being there for themselves. When you are being supportive of a friend, read on to know what you should not be doing because you might be hurting them rather than helping them:

DO YOUR OWN WORK

The best way for any individual to help him or herself is to do it on their own. However, this does not mean you just let your friend go and ask them to sort out their own problems. Give him or her a helping hand but don’t take on their burden and make it your own. Besides, if you are always doing things for your friends that he or she should be doing on their own, you are being more of a doormat rather than a helping hand. So offer help when it is needed and don’t become a baby sitter to him or her, be there for them in a mature manner.

DISCOURAGE CRYING

If a friend is feeling sad and starts to cry, very often you might get carried away and decide to share their sorrow by becoming a cry baby yourself. This is definitely not a healthy way to help someone. If your friend is upset about something to such an extent, that he or she is actually led to tears, don’t sit and cry with them. You friend is depending on you to be the strong person. You need to gather your courage and try to stop your friend from crying and not join in the wailing.

BE HONEST

Sometimes, you might get so carried away with trying to make your friend feel better, that you tell him or her exactly what they need to hear, whether or not it is the truth. If you are lying to your friends about facts just to make them feel better, stop yourself. As hard as it maybe, you need to always be honest with your friend. If they are in denial about something, it will be up to you to make sure they see reality and not live in an illusion. So be straightforward but do it gently. Lying to your friend will make thing worse for him or her because they will actually believe everything you say. So choose your words carefully.

NOT ABOUT YOU

If your friend is sad about something and has come to you with his or her problem, listen to them and focus on what he or she is trying to communicate. Don’t start about your problems and tell your friend about what issues you have. It is obvious that your friend has come to you because they want to share their troubles and the last thing anyone would want, is for you to go on and on about your petty issues instead of listening to what they are suffering from. Yes, if you are going through a serious crisis of your own, then go ahead and vent. But if it is something that can wait, then pay attention to your friends first.

DON’T GOSSIP

The biggest no-no when it comes to being there for someone is not to tell anyone else about what happened between you and your friend. Your friend came to you and confided in you and if you go around telling the entire world their personal lives’ details — well you might just end up losing your friend. No one will trust you enough to share their personal life with you. You must always respect your friends’ privacy.

A true friend is hard to find, so, if you have one be there for him or her and don’t do any of the above.

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Ways of Keeping your Wife Happy

You love her and she knows it!
However instead of being content with this, you need to keep her happy, to make your marriage successful.
If she is the best thing to happen in your life, you need to show your appreciation and love to her too.
Wedding vows only told you that you need to keep her happy, not how to do it. In order to keep your wife in high spirits, you need to incorporate certain new habits in your life.
Read on to know how to keep your wife happy and your marriage blissful.

Appreciate Her
Appreciate all the work she does for you. Think how hard your life will be when no one is there to cook for you or wash for you and search your car keys that you carelessly keep somewhere and don't seem to find. You know your life will be worthless without her. So, appreciate all the work she does for you.

Listen To Her
Most women complain that their husbands don’t listen to them. Make sure your wife knows that you pay attention to everything she says and keep it in mind too. Just like 'the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach', the way to a woman's heart is through your ears. Even if you do listen to your wife, instead of being a passive listener, be an active one. If you pick her daily after office, ask her how her day was and listen patiently if she wants to tell something.

Pampering Goes A Long Way
I know you have pampered her during your courtship. Remember how you used to cross five blocks, just to get her favorite chocolates? So what happened now? You love her more now. So, why not make her happy by pampering her. It may be something small, like massaging her feet after a long day at work or ironing her clothes before she wakes up. Do all these and we guarantee that she will fall for you all over again!

Help Her In Household Chores
This is one of the surest ways to make your wife happy. You don’t need to take off all the burden and start cooking, cleaning and mopping, all by yourself. However, you can give a hand in something she is doing, like if she is cooking, you can cut the vegetables or clean the plates. It will be easier for both of you and you would get some time together too.

Surprise Her
Girls love surprises! Make your wife happy by giving surprise gifts. It doesn’t need to be diamonds or costly gowns; the gift can be as small as a flower or a book by her favorite author. Even a small love-you note on the bathroom mirror will make her happy.

Confess Your Love
Even though she knows that you love her, hearing it will make her day, especially when you speak these words early in the morning. Wake her up by murmuring these sweet words in her ears and you will find her cheerful all day long, despite the workload. Call her sometimes, just to tell her that you were missing her and wanted to hear her voice. This will let her know that the main things that drive you is her love and that will make her immensely happy.

Never Take Her For Granted
When a relationship grows old, partners start taking each other for granted. The best thing you can do to make your wife happy and your relationship stronger is never to take her for granted. Tell her you are lucky to have her and appreciate the love she bestows on you. Thank her for all the selfless work she does and it will give her huge pleasure.

Spend Time With Her
Spending time together is one of the basic elements of a successful marriage. Even though both of you are busy in your respective careers, take out time for each other, as nothing is more important than love. If your offices are in neighborhood, make it a point to have lunch together at least once in a week. Spending time with her is the best gift you can give her, to make her happy.

Be Her Knight In Shining Armor
Most of the women want their man to be their hero. Strive to achieve this position in her eyes. Be brave, kind, loving, and gentle and your wife will adore you. Love her family and friends, be loyal towards her and maintain honesty in the relation, and you will keep her happy forever.
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5 Deadly First Date Sins

Get a hold of yourself with this list of the five most deadly first date sins. This “don’t go there” list will help you take the pressure off date number one.
Then you can relax and enjoy the getting-to-know-them process. There’s no second chance at a first impression, so why sabotage a first date?
Look, everyone’s nervous, but that’s no excuse to leave your manners at the door, your boundaries back at home and your brain in the car.

Shhhh: There is no reason, ever, to reveal to a complete stranger a lifelong battle of chronic health issues, your total credit card debt, or the childhood wound that certainly won’t be healed on a first date. Forcing someone to listen to your over-share is tactless and self-centered (and most likely boring!). Don’t lead with your wounds. It’s a date, not a therapy session. Have fun. Movies, current events, comical family stories, favorite books and foods are comfy subjects.

Your ex: Don’t invite your ex along on your date. That’s right, never, ever bring them up on a date. At all. No talking about what used to be your favorite restaurant before the biggest, most painful breakup of your life - or about your old apartment or the time you went to (fill in the blank). No talking about how similar your current date looks, smells, acts or dresses like your ex. And never, ever, take your date anywhere you think your ex might be… to show off that you are on a date with someone new. If you are dating to get back at an ex, you are still dating your ex.

Marathons: The first date should be only a few hours - dinner and a movie at most. The first date is a warm-up lap, not an endurance run. It’s just plain weird to go out for an extended amount of time with someone you just met. You are essentially strangers who are starting, hopefully, to make a connection. Respect the fragility of a new attraction. Let it grow over time. The first date might be the first step to lasting intimacy. If it’s the right person, there will be many more dates to come.

Generosity: Showering your date with gifts, a limo ride, roses, a walk on the beach to take in the sunset before taking a private jet to Paris for éclairs is too much for a first date. A single gesture goes a long way. Flowers. A gift. A nice restaurant. One of these things is just fine. But throwing everything possible at someone looks like a desperate attempt to compensate for some inadequacy you think will show if your date isn’t dizzied by distractions. Even worse, what if you are halfway through the best date you’ve ever planned in your life and you realize you don’t even like this person? Make the investment when you know what you are investing in. If it’s the right person you’ll have lots of special occasions to celebrate.

Sex it up: After the mystery of the holy trinity resides the eternal question - how far do you go on a first date? The specifics are up to you and your inner guide. But if you decide to ignore your convictions, it may not be worth it. The fresh insecurity of a new attraction is enough on its own without the pit in your stomach the next morning wondering if you’ve rushed the physical intimacy. Using sex to artificially feel close to someone in the initial stages just won’t work. It’s fine for a hot quick flash that burns out in a few weeks, but if you are really looking for something to last, you have to build the emotional intimacy first.

Whether you’ve been the perpetrator or the victim of these top five crimes, the best part about first dates is there is always another one on the way. Dust yourself off and try again, if you mess up. Because with each date you tell the universe, yes, I am open, yes I am willing, bring me someone worthy to love.
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Reason Why Men Fall in Love with Women

To women, men truly do seem as though they come from another planet at times.
Men obviously think differently than women do and if you are in a relationship or you are looking for a relationship it's difficult when you don't really know what he's looking for.

As women, sometimes want to bend and twist oneselves to fit into the mold of the perfect woman.
However in order to truly understand what makes a man fall in love with a woman, you have to consider what qualities men find attractive.

Men aren't looking for a woman who is perfect. This includes not perfect physically as well as emotionally. What makes a man fall in love with a woman obviously differs depending on the man but all men have one common need in a mate. They want someone who is genuine.

Men are looking for a partner who is herself. She doesn't put on a show when she's around him and she embraces who she is. Some women make the common mistake of thinking they have to go above and beyond who they normally are to impress the man they are dating.

Common ways women do this is by dressing in clothing they normally wouldn't even consider wearing or spending hours in the kitchen preparing a home cooked meal when they normally opt for take-out. Anytime you put on a charade for the man in your life, you are setting yourself up for misery.

Not only will he likely see right through it but you'll have to continue to do it throughout the relationship. If you really want to make a man fall in love with you present yourself just as you are, flaws and all. Men love flaws, they make each woman unique.

Self confidence is also what makes a man fall in love with a woman. Women can be catty creatures and can get green with envy the moment the man they adore looks at another woman. If you really want to stand out in a crowd and be the one woman to capture a particular man's heart show him that you aren't threatened by others.

If he looks at other women when you two are together don't bat an eyelash. If your man happens to talk about his ex girlfriend sometimes smile and comment on how lovely she sounds.
Never allow a man to see that you feel threatened by another woman. Show him that you believe you are a prize and he'll start to see it too.
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Ways to Learn to Love your Looks !

Boost Your Beauty Confidence

Study beauty role models:
Not to wish you looked like them, but to notice their uniqueness. Think Lauren Hutton’s gap-toothed smile, Andie MacDowell’s tightly-curled hair, Susan Sarandon’s subtle smile lines. Embrace your own unique features.

Splurge on a great haircut:
Well-cut hair always looks gorgeous, making you feel that much more beautiful.

Break a bad habit:
If you bite your nails, stop. Pick at dry skin? Hands off! Then celebrate your new, good habit with a manicure or a luxe body cream.

Embrace your hair:
Wrestling with your tresses usually results in a less-than-pretty outcome. Instead, learn to work with your curls or sleekness, and your hair is guaranteed to look better.

Pare down your makeup:
You most likely don’t need foundation, cover-up, cream blush, lip liner, eye liner, eye shadow, contour cream, lip gloss, matte powder…. Instead, limit yourself to the basics and see your skin shine through.

Find your perfect lipstick:
One that looks ultra-natural and that brings out your eyes works best ( and looks great when you’re wearing no other makeup at all ). Ask a cosmetic salesperson for suggestions.

For one full day, wear no makeup:
Be sure it’s a day when you have to venture outside, even if it’s only to go to the drugstore! Note how people treat you just the same when you’re barefaced as when you’re “done.”

Keep your eyebrows groomed:
Makeup artists swear that well-kept eyebrows pull your look together, even without any makeup at all.

Get real:
It’s okay to admit you’ll never look like Cindy Crawford or Patty Hansen. It’s also okay to be happy about it!

List your life successes:
Chances are, they are all things that have nothing to do with your looks. Looks are just one part of your awesome package!
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How Should You Refuse a Kiss

It’s absolutely under your discretion, to allow the man to kiss you or not.
If locking lips is not on your mind right now, here are a few tips to avoid being kissed...

Stop flirting.
Flirting gives off the impression to your partner that you want something further than just hand holding. Try not to give off the wrong signals.

Shake your head.
Try not to pull away when your girlfriend or boyfriend tries to kiss you. They will only be left feeling rejected and your partner won’t really want to try to kiss you later on in your relationship.

Be honest.
Tell your partner honestly that you are not really ready to kiss yet and that you will let him or her know when you will be later on. Honesty is the best route in this situation.

Tell your partner that you don’t like to kiss early in the relationship .
If they try anyways and don’t abide by your wishes, then this person is not worthy of your time and, of course, your kiss.

Be kind to your girlfriend or boyfriend after you refuse their kiss.
Let them know you still like him or her by hugging and holding hands. This way, your partner will not feel completely rejected.

Move away from your girlfriend or boyfriend.
Turn your head if necessary and explain you are not ready yet. If this person cares about you, then he or she will stop trying and wait for you to make the move.

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