Two Patient's Wisdom


Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.
His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end.
They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fin e view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he could see it. In his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.
Days and weeks passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed.

It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window
The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.
She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you."

Epilogue:

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy.

"Today is a gift, that's why it is called the present."

The True Meaning of LOVE - A Touching Story


My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders. Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it.

The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.. I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy.

My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love. One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.
"Why?" he asked, shocked. "I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times.

My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can't even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:" What can I do to change your mind?" Somebody said it right, it's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : "Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?" He said :" I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....
My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further.." This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy. You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails,and help to remove those annoying white hairs.
So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand... and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face...

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. " My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting.... and as I continue on reading...
"Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...
I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread.....

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone...
That's life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.
Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. . flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship.
Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... and that's our life... Love, not words win arguments...

Are we Happier than our Forefathers?


Long years ago stress was never a part of anyone’s dictionary. However, today it is the most common word used by everyone ranging from a 13-year-old child to a 95 year old adult.
What is the reason behind the frequent usage of this word in the modern times?

Earlier, primitive man survived on bare essentials of life & yet he was stress free but today even though technology has gifted a luxurious life to man we are stressed.


Earlier man had to roam from place to place in search of food & shelter. Today the modern man can even work by sitting at home through technologies like laptops & cellular phones. Yet today man has been confronted by various diseases & has to tackle stress.

Why is it that a primitive man working several times harder than the modern man had time for pleasure activities but a modern man has to make work his leisure and work to no end. Technology & modern equipments were to make man’s life stress free & relaxed but instead it had has adverse effects on man’s life.


A few centuries man had not even heard of fatal diseases like “ aids” however today every research & technology is being to find a treatment for this disease.
Man has found medicines & treatments for the tiniest of the creatures on this earth but yet has failed to discover a cure, which would save the life of a fellow mate.
Science and technology has made it possible to reach the moon but is it of any use because we don’t have time to go & even meet out old parents who have taught us what a moon is & how to reach there.


These facts make me think, “ Are we happier than our forefathers?” in my opinion we are not as happy as they were. Our forefathers lived a stress free, contented & happy life but today these words are only seen in the dictionary.

If we desire to live like our forefathers then it could only be possible in the Himalayas because in this world we require money for minimal needs & necessities & to earn that also we have to work very hard.

Working hard would mean work during the day accompanied by work through the night.
Is this called being happy?
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The Difference Between Rich n Poor People

Line bounderies between Poor and Rich people

One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live.

They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family.


On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, "How was the trip?"


"It was great, Dad."
"Did you see how poor people live?" the father asked.

"Oh yeah," said the son.
"So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?" asked the father.

The son answered: "I saw that we have one dog and they had four.

We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end.

We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night.


Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon.


We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight.


We have servants who serve us, but they serve others.


We buy our food, but they grow theirs.


We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them."


The boy's father was speechless.


Then his son added, "Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are."


Isn't perspective a wonderful thing?

Makes you wonder what would happen if we all gave thanks for everything we have,
instead of worrying about what we don't have.


Appreciate every single thing you have, especially your friends!
( like me, no comment pls. Lol )


"Life is too short and friends are too few."

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The Best Gifts Ever That Money Can't Buy !


To yourself: The gifts of daily self-examination, self-discipline, self-respect, originality, a balanced diet, regular exercise, and regular mental and spiritual nourishment.

To your brothers and sisters:
The gifts of love, help, understanding and emotional support.


To your spouse:
The gifts of appreciation, support, affection, faithfulness, love, patience, understanding, and time.


To your children:
The gifts of education, shelter, guidance, love, understanding, patience, sympathy, time, and good example.


To your parents:
The gifts of thoughtfulness, love, appreciation, and thankful heart.


To your helpers:
The gifts of kindness, appreciation, motivation, and reward.


To your friends:
The gifts of encouragement, communication, help, and your presence in times of storms..


To strangers:
The gifts of a smile, open-mindedness, kind words, and deeds.


To your colleagues:
The gifts of sense of humor, open-mindedness, tactfulness, encouragement, sincerity, cooperation, and support.


To your boss:
The gifts of humbleness, humility, loyalty, honesty, respect, quality service and creativeness.


To the broken-hearted:
The gifts of undivided attention, emotional support and encouragement.


To the lowly ones:
The gifts of helping hands and loving heart.


To your enemies:
The gifts of forgiveness, humility, reconciliation, service, and a smile.


To the prisoners:
The gifts of clothes, foods, medicines, and evangelization.


To your country:
The gifts of loyalty, support, compliance to the laws of the land, and submission to the authority.


To the Almighty God:
The gifts of daily communication, appreciation, diligent application on His wise counsels and finally, the gifts of sharing His words to all nations of the world.
Apply and give these gifts to yourself and to somebody else, so you can make this world a little better and peaceful place to live.
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Pair of Old Shoes..


A young man, a student in one of the universities, was one day taking a walk with a professor, who was commonly called the students' friend for his kindness to those who waited on his instructions.
As they went along, they saw lying in the path a pair of old shoes, which were supposed to belong to a poor man who was working in a field close by, and who had nearly finished his day's work . . .


Student turned to the professor, saying: "Let us play the man a trick:

We will hide his shoes, and hide ourselves behind those bushes, and wait to see his perplexity when he cannot find them ..."

"My young friend," answered the professor, "We should never amuse ourselves at the expense of the poor . . . But you are rich, and may give yourself a much greater pleasure by means of this poor man.


Put a coin in each shoe, and then we will hide ourselves and watch how this affects him." Visit: The student did so and they both placed themselves behind the bushes close by.
The poor man soon finished his work, and came across the field to the path where he had left his coat and shoes . . .

While putting on his coat he slipped his foot into one of his shoes, but feeling something hard, he stooped down to feel what it was, and found the coin. Astonishment and wonder were seen upon his countenance.


He gazed upon the coin, turned it around and looked at it again and again.

He then looked around him on all sides, but no person was to be seen. He now put the money into his pocket, and proceeded to put on the other shoe; but his surprise was doubled on finding the other coin . . .

His feelings overcame him . . . He fell upon his knees, looked up to heaven and uttered aloud a fervent thanksgiving in which he spoke of his wife, sick and helpless, and his children without bread, whom this timely bounty, from some unknown hand, would save from perishing . . .


The student stood there deeply affected, and his eyes filled with tears.

"Now," said the professor, are you not much better pleased than if you had played your intended trick?"
The youth replied, "You have taught me a lesson which I will never forget. .. I feel now the truth of these words, which I never understood before: "It's more blessed to give than to receive.

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If you want happiness... .For a lifetime - help someone.

20 Ways to Get Mentally Tough


1. When you face a setback, think of it as a defining moment that will lead to a future accomplishment.

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When you encounter adversity, remember, the best don't just face adversity; they embrace it, knowing it's not a dead end but a detour to something greater and better.


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When you face negative people, know that the key to life is to stay positive in the face of negativity, not in the absence of it. After all, everyone will have to overcome negativity to define themselves and create their success.


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When you face the naysayer's, remember the people who believed in you and spoke positive words to you.


5. When you face critics, remember to tune them out and focus only on being the best you can be.

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When you wake up in the morning, take a morning walk of gratitude and prayer. It will create a fertile mind ready for success.


7. When you fear, trust. Let your faith be greater than your doubt.

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When you fail, find the lesson in it, and then recall a time when you have succeeded.


9. When you head into battle, visualize success.

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When you are thinking about the past or worrying about the future, instead focus your energy on the present moment. The now is where your power is the greatest.


11.
When you want to complain, instead identify a solution.


12.
When your own self-doubt crowds your mind, weed it and replace it with positive thoughts and positive self-talk.


13.
When you feel distracted, focus on your breathing, observe your surroundings, clear your mind, and get into The Zone. The Zone is not a random event. It can be created.


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When you feel all is impossible, know that with God all things are possible.


15.
When you feel alone, think of all the people who have helped you along the way and who love and support you now.


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When you feel lost, pray for guidance.


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When you are tired and drained, remember to never, never, never give up. Finish Strong in everything you do.


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When you feel like you can't do it, know that you can do all things through Him who gives you strength.


19.
When you feel like your situation is beyond your control, pray and surrender. Focus on what you can control and let go of what you can't.


20.
When you're in a high-pressure situation and the game is on the line, and everyone is watching you, remember to smile, have fun, and enjoy it. Life is short; you only live once.
You have nothing to lose. Seize the moment.

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How to Love Yourself



Stop ALL criticism.
Simply refuse to criticize yourself. Everybody changes, but
criticism never changes anything. It makes things worse. When you are criticizing yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

Don't scare yourself !

Living in terror of your own thoughs and emotions is a
dreadful way to live. When you feel a scary thought coming on, have a mental image ready that gives you pleasure and switch to that.

Be gentle and kind and patient.

Go easy on yourself as you learn new ways of
thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really love.

Be kind to your mind.

Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate
yourself for your thoughts. Instead, gently change the thoughts.

Praise yourself.

Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up.
Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

Support yourself.

Reach out to safe friends and allow them to help you. When
you need help and ask for it, you are being strong.

Be loving to your negatives.

Acknowledge that you created them to fill a need.
Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly realease the old negative patterns.

Take care of your body.

Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body
need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

Do mirror work.

Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love
you have for yourself. Forgive yourself as you look into the mirror. Talk to your parents as you look into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say, "I love you, I really love you!"

Love yourself!! Do it now!!

Don't wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship.


Begin NOW and do the best you can!!
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How to Argue Efficiently and Win

It can be difficult for people to get their point across without hurting one another in the process.

Here are some tips for effectively resolving a problem by stating your views, while being collected and reasonable. Also included are tips on winning an argument.

Stay calm & Keep a steady low tone. The energy you give off is usually picked up on by the other person; if you are calm they sense you mean no harm and relax more.

Even if you get emotional, try to keep your dignity and don’t lash out unexpectedly. Also consider your tone of voice; try to keep a steady, low tone and volume, not fluctuating to much in speed and sound.

Try to sound as relaxed as possible and avoid high-pitched sounds. Also consider your body language: have a good firm posture that makes your feel powerful but not agressive.

Don’t insult the other person. Avoid to, in any way, say something that might be taken as an insult. When people are angry they are much more sensitive and will take even the smallest comment as an insult.

Express that you are willing to listen to the other person and respect them. Even though you might not agree with what the other person is saying you need to remember that they might feel just as strongly about their views as you do about yours.

Be reasonable. The outcome of the argument might not be exactly what you wanted, but never expect to get everything you want.

Don’t let it last too long, the argument degrades if it’s held out.

Allow each person to speak and make their point.

Set healthy boundaries. If the person with whom you are arguing is angry, obnoxious or verbally abusive, should you really be interacting with them? It may be better to walk away.

If the argument is with a clerk, salesperson, etc. ask to speak with their supervisor. If a supervisor isn’t immediately available, get a phone number.

Winning an Argument -

Think about the possible arguments for and against your side, and the opposite side. If there is any major weakness in your argument, you must fill it before coming to a confrontation with the opposition, or risk losing the argument.

Identify any major pitfalls your opponent can step into. A gentle nudge here and there to get them to make some sort of fallacious statement that allows you to close the bear trap is psychologically damaging and can win an argument on the spot. Also try to take each argument to its logical conclusion.

Always take full advantage of any illogicality or fallacy in your opponent’s argument. Return any illogical points with as many relevant logical facts as possible, to completely quash their point. If this is not possible, take their point and use it in your favor logically.

It’s always possible to lose an argument, especially if your argument has major weaknesses. Accept it if thats the case.

However, arguments do sometimes come to standoffs, where no side is stronger than the other and nobody wins or loses. when this happens, learn to leave the argument as nothing can be gained by continuing to confront your opponent. When this happens, don’t lose control or get desperate.

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